Tim Ferriss is a highly successful author, podcaster, entrepreneur and investor. He has written five #1 New York Times bestselling books, and the success of his podcast, which recently exceeded over 300 million downloads, has seen him named “the Oprah of audio” due to its influence.
In 2017 however, as he turned 40, several people in his close circle friends died in quick succession.
It was a harsh reminder that time is a non renewable resource, and life’s big questions started bubbling to the surface.
- “Were my goals my own, or simply what I thought I should want?”
- “How much of life have I missed through underplanning or overplanning?”
- “How could I be kinder to myself?”
Overwhelmed by the gravity of his own personal interrogation, he asked himself one more question…
“What would this look like if it were easy?”
By journaling on this question, one idea jumped out from the page…
“What if I had a tribe of mentors to help me answer these questions?”
What followed was his most recent book Tribe of Mentors, where Tim reached out to his dream list of interviewees, and asked them the very same questions he was struggling with himself.
The result of this book is a deconstruction of the tools, routines and tactics from over 130 of the world’s top performers.
This book is a masterpiece on the secrets of success and happiness, and if life is getting you down right now, chances are you will find a solution right here.
When I sat down to write this article over a month ago, I wanted to write about a tool I picked up from that very book. It’s a journaling technique I use when life gets busy.
I wanted the introduction to shine, so I began to write about all kinds of fancy concepts: cognitive biases, memory capacity, decision-making, information overload, even neuroscience.
The words were spewing out of me…
I was on a role…
It was going to be brilliant.
I excitedly read back over it when I finished…
But it wasn’t good.
It was actually pretty crap.
I went back over it several times throughout the following three weeks, but I couldn’t figure out what was wrong.
It was a complicated mess, and it was giving me a headache.
“Truth is simple. If it was complicated everyone would understand it.” — Walt Whitman
Then it hit me…
I was struggling to implement the very technique I was writing about. I was overloaded with information, and trying to solve the problem in my head.
But solving complex problems doesn’t work like that…
If you want to get answers, you need a technique. And if you want to get to the heart of something, you need to get specific.
A powerful tool for this is reflective writing. You simply put a heading at the top of the page, and write anything that comes to mind. It is VERY important that you give yourself time, a minimum of 10–15 mins.
Then just let it flow.
Don’t worry if it doesn’t make sense at first. The idea is to create links that might connect to something you’re missing.
Now here’s the critical piece…
You need to use specific questions.
If you’re trying to push a project forward, and you write “project goals” at the top of the page, that would be far too vague.
It’s best to use something specific like: “What can I subtract from the current project that will help me to accomplish things quicker?”
Subtractions work great, and specific questions provide cues to get to the core of a problem.
I recently used this method to make an important career choice. I wasn’t sure whether I should focus on my new self-development business, or continue with my studies.
So I asked myself two questions:
- What is it about research that makes me come alive?
- Why do I want to pursue my business so quickly?
Notice the specificity of the words in bold. This is what guided my answers.
I won’t go into the details, but I found that both options were completely interconnected. It made sense to do both, so I did.
More importantly however…
I made an informed decision, and my mind was clear.
I also use this method to clarify my thinking and track my life progress.
Here are five questions I ask myself on a regular basis:
- What excites you, what are you passionate about?
- What new things are you learning right now?
- What have you done in the last two weeks that is potentially a waste of time?
- What is your number one goal? Where do you want to go in life?
- Have you failed at anything recently, are you pushing hard enough?
I had a remarkable insight when I first used this method, which is why I hold it so dear. About a year ago I asked myself the first question: “What excites you, what are you passionate about?”
I scribbled down anything that excited me… meditation, language, mental health, helping people, skiing, making connections, public speaking, research.
But there was something missing, something big.
I sat with it for a while, scribbled some more, sat with it for a while, and scribbled some more.
Then it came to me…
I was shocked…
I had forgotten my passion.
For the previous three years I couldn’t shut up about a book I was planning to write. It’s about the link between language, emotion, and meditation in case you’re wondering. The busyness of life had clouded my mind. I had not thought about it for months. I’m not saying that it was gone forever, but if I had forgotten something that important, what else might I be missing.
What’s more, when I wrote the words “my book” on the page, it was connected to everything else I was passionate about. Writing is now my greatest passion, and the focus of my future career. Would this be the case if I never used this tool? I’ll never know for sure.
It’s a scary thought.
Take away message
Modern life is frantic. There are so many moving parts.
If you want to get to the heart of something, there is nothing better than sitting down with a pen and paper.
If you want to go deep, it’s all about the questions. Vague questions give you vague answers, so you need to get specific.
This is the power of reflective writing.
You’ll also be able to think, talk, and express yourself better.
Henry Ford was right: “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right”
So maybe it’s time to get specific and find out what that is.
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