What's your self-talk like?

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The way we speak to ourselves really matters! The myriad of our self-beliefs is formed through our inner chatter and how we talk to ourselves.

We all have a little voice in our head which really doesn’t serve us at times. This little voice tells us we are not good enough or we are not capable etc… It is important to befriend that little voice and not let it take over or even worse just suppress it.

Sometimes all we need is a simple reminder,

I am enough.

Sometimes you just need a reminder that you are enough right now, without any acceptation. If you have trouble believing that, write a list of all the things that you love and value about yourself.

You can’t change the negative self-talk unless you know what it is so,

Notice negative thoughts.

Self-doubt or lack of confidence can manifest based on patterns of negative thoughts. Do you have a stream of thoughts that pop up daily and make you doubt your self-worth? Maybe it’s thoughts about your physical body, your intelligence, or your potential for happiness. Whatever it is that’s keeping you from loving yourself, start to notice these thoughts. Once you are more aware of what your limiting or negative thoughts and self-talk patterns are, you can then begin to replace them with more positive and empowering thoughts and words.

Be kind to yourself,

Treat yourself like your best friend.

We often have so much love and compassion to share but fail to give the same to ourselves. Consider all of the well wishes you would send to a friend who is struggling, then turn those thoughts to yourself.

Self-love is not something we can achieve over night. A lack of love is based on long-standing feelings of doubt that take time to unlearn. Pretending the negative self thoughts don’t exist will not serve to rid you of them. Rather, we need to understand these thought patterns, and notice why and when they occur.

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