Having a compassionate heart, I understand that people do not lie to me, they lie to themselves. Being a highly sensitive person, I can feel disharmony very quickly. Shifting from being a survivor of domestic violence to being a thriver after domestic violence is 100% the ability to embrace, understand, and utilise various gifts for my wellness.
Self-care is the best type of love. Self-care reminds me that I’m worthy. Self-care teaches others how I expect to be treated. Self-care is walking my walk. Self-care is living in integrity. Self-care is doing things that make my heart sing.
The Universe is getting chatty again. My world is filled with people that love on themselves and hand on heart, try to do their best. Intentions are mostly pure and execution is mostly there. When the mark is missed, people in my world hold themselves accountable and well, fail forward. Admitting missteps is not easy but it’s so freaking powerful. People in my world know that I have shifted. I learned to love others whilst maintaining healthy boundaries. Two years ago, I was unhealthy. I was convinced that love was based on physical proximity. Love was showing up. Love was building my tolerance at all cost. Present day, love is self-care.
My life in Asia was relatively simple. My social circle was small. I lived and breathed 4 quarters over 100 pennies. People that became my family were the real deal. One of the reasons why I have been able to overcome adversity is because I understood the difference between words and actions. My tribe. My circle. My community was filled with people that touched various parts of my world. The volunteers. The thinkers. The athletes. The collaborators. The creators of magic… my community was filled with people that I admired. Moving back to the USA was humbling because I lost inspiration. Rather than a system that encouraged people to be their best version, it felt like it was a community of dim your light as to not make others feel threatened. A false reality, I know. But my outer world had a direct correlation to the storm brewing within. Over the last year… or 2 years, I’ve done some incredible work where my outer world is once again, just as productive as my world in Asia! My life is filled with people getting lost in their own magic. Inviting me to join the fun. And me inviting them to join my flow. It’s rooted in love. It’s transparent. It’s simple. I am not second-guessing intentions because it’s consistent.
Consistency is one of my favourite things… consistency to be your best version. Consistency to live your best life. Consistency to love. And love hard. All things grounded with incredible self-care practices.
Living an intentional life takes well, intention. A few months ago, I upgraded my self-care practices from song dedications to dog walking. I couldn’t figure out a way to get others to pay me for music (hahahaha) so I examined other aspects of my life that brought me peace. Hanging out with dogs was unquestionably at the top of my list. The decision was made. I joined Wag and Rover. I accepted as many walks as possible… I built my skills and my confidence. I shared my joy of dog walking on a few social media platforms. And soon enough, people started reaching out directly. Can you watch my dog? Can you walk my dog? Can my dog join you for a playdate? At moment, I have a handful of LARGE dogs. My lifestyle is active so it’s nice to have a running buddy! It’s also a safe way to explore the city. Walking dogs has also helped me implement and maintain healthy boundaries with others. Despite juggling 5 hustles, I still make time for others. I often forget that just because I’m making time for them, they are not always making time for me. A learning curve that I’m somewhat ahead of. It’s a matter of increasing awareness, staying in my state of creating magic and surrounding myself with love-bugs.
I’m finally in a position where I can decline projects and clients that are not in alignment with my personal objectives. It doesn’t matter how much money is on the table, if something disrupts my peace, it’s simply NOT worth it. Ever. Being in a position to not just say that but live it, breathe it, follow it, and honour it is just… POWERFUL!