The spiritual disciplines of silence and
solitude may be quiet, but they’re also full of adventure, because God is
waiting to meet you there. Whenever you get away from the noise and busyness of
life to encounter God through silence and solitude, you’ll find powerful
inspiration. Here’s how you can use silence and solitude to grow closer to God
for wisdom and wonder:
- Pay attention to what’s stirring in your soul. Notice the feelings of desperation and desire that you experience
at various times. Instead of trying to suppress or run from those feelings, let
them motivate you pursue time with God in silence and solitude.
- Incorporate silence and solitude into your life regularly. Choose a regular time and place to get away from life as usual
and spend at least 10 minutes in silence and solitude as often as you can. Ask
God to help you express your need for inspiration through a simple prayer, and
choose a physical position that will enable you to stay alert yet peaceful.
- Overcome resistance. Don’t
let anything distract you from devoting yourself regularly to times of seeking
God in silence and solitude. Entrust each of your current concerns specifically
to God in prayer so you can be free to be fully present with him during solitude
and silence. If you’re anxious or afraid when you think about spending time in solitude
and silence, admit it to God and ask him to comfort you.
- Seek rest for your body, mind, and soul. Pray for the wisdom you need to recognize when you’ve become
dangerously tired – exhausted by life’s demands, to the point where you can’t
hear God’s voice speaking to you. Accept God’s invitation to rest in his
presence during solitude and silence. Rather than showing up tired for your
special meetings with God, give your body the rest it needs by getting enough
sleep and exercise, eating well, and drinking water regularly. While you’re
spending time in solitude and silence, take deep breaths and let the peace of
God’s presence fill your body. Let go of concerns that your mind is trying to
hold onto during solitude and silence by opening yourself up to the revelation
that comes from beyond your mind – from God, who can speak to you about things
that your mind can’t figure out, but your spirit can hear. Ask God to help you
quiet your mind and listen to him with your spirit, trusting that God will
respond to your prayer by speaking to you. If grief is weighing on your soul,
confess it to God. When your soul feels grateful for God’s love, express that
gratitude to God.
- Let emptiness lead you to God’s fulfillment. Don’t try to deny or avoid the emptiness you feel inside
sometimes. Instead, recognize that emptiness can be good when it motivates you
to turn to God to seek fulfillment during your times of solitude and silence.
So feel the pain of your emptiness as it carves out space in your soul for you
to receive more of God’s presence.
- Face yourself as you really are, and let God help you. Rather than hiding from
God, denying who you are, or trying to control what others think of you, allow
the truth of who you are to surface during solitude and silence – and face the
reality of the person you see, flaws and all. Then remember that God loves you
deeply and unconditionally, and ask him to meet you right where you are and
help you grow more into the person he wants you to become. Use whatever painful
new knowledge you’ve gained about yourself to repent from sin and grow closer
to God, with the confidence that he will help you every step of the way. Keep in mind that God is for you, with you, and in you when you open yourself up to his
powerful presence. So give yourself completely to God, who loves you just as
you are but also loves you too much to let you stay as you are.
- Receive God’s guidance. The
more time you spend with God in solitude and silence, the more you’ll learn how
to recognize God’s voice when he speaks to you. Pray for the guidance you need
to make wise decisions, and be alert for God communicating to your soul about
what is true. Remember that God will reveal truth to you only as you’re able to
bear it, so trust God’s timing.
- Let the love that you experience in solitude and silence pour out
into other people’s lives. Each time that
you return to life in community with other people after spending time in
solitude and silence, draw upon the love that God has given you to love others
in the ways he wants you to express love – from speaking kind and encouraging
words, to serving them when they need help with something. Take what God has
given you during your meetings with him in solitude and silence and use it to
bless others when you’re with them.
Hopler works as Communications Director at George
Mason University’s Center for the Advancement of Well-Being (CWB)
and has written for many media organizations, from About.com to the Washington
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