ARE YOU TRULY HAPPY?
Feel stuck in a job, a lifestyle, a place or people that you don’t love? Burned out, lack of time and energy to enjoy time with your family? Your boss doubted your resilience after your burnout and refuse a promotion? Feel not in the place of a parent who inspires your kids with your own dreams?
One question you need to ask yourself: Are you truly happy when you wake up in the morning?
I WASN’T WAKING UP HAPPY AND I WAS TELLING MYSELF THIS IS JUST THE WAY IT IS
I remember those dull days. I was exhausted after years of effort, and couldn’t make it any further.
Working as a manager for a pharmaceutical company, I had animated and stressful days. I couldn’t say no to many things. Mom of two little kids, evenings were full of running between homework, cooking, babysitting, and housework. Couldn’t stop either.
On the edge of burnout, I started to find myself emotionally vulnerable and extremely tired.
That morning, my son refused to obey outside of the house in front of everyone. And I was unable to remain calm as I used to be. I burst into tears.
At that moment, I felt so scared. I saw that I was not able to remain the harbor for my kids anymore. Because I wasn’t one for myself.
At work, things were not better either. When I came back from my long sick leave, I tried to hide that I was still tired. I applied for lots of positions (for which I was not genuinely interested) and hoped to show me as the best again. My boss refused my promotion. He said: “My concern is your level of resilience”. I was shocked.
If I continue, I might lose my job. I also visualized losing my kids’ respect because I am not good within myself to guide and inspire them. I felt desperate. How can I ever overcome this situation?
“SLEEPWALKING” – I WRONGLY THOUGHT IT WAS THE WAY IT IS
Most of us haven’t been told there is another way to earn a living that truly fulfills us. I was always looking for a new job in the same sector. I always thought that I needed to get a promotion with my boss because it showed that I was successful. I also believed that was the only job that brought so much money. It was the job that everybody approved and considered privileged.
In my family life, I always also thought that being a good mother was to sacrifice myself to take care of my children. To the extent of getting burned out myself. And more importantly, to become an ordinary mother who had no dream and identity.
I realized that being a good mother is to first fill myself with joy and resources. So that I can be there for my kids when they need and inspire them from my own dream and identity.
I MADE THE COMMITMENT TO CHANGE MY LIFE
My heart told me that I could not carry on with the same life any longer. Every day waking up I felt hopeless. Can you imagine if I continue this situation one year more, or even one day more? Who will be the person I am in 5 years?
It became stronger and stronger in me the belief that we are all here for a strong purpose. And spending our days doing what we don’t love is the last thing we should do to ourselves.
Today I’ve decided to make a change. I take the courage to change because I want to live by doing what I love. But also, I want to teach my kids by example that realizing one’s dream is the most beautiful thing in life, and a single mom can do big!
ARE YOU READY TO BUILD YOUR DREAM?
My mentor in this weekend workshop shared a story. His mentor asked him: Are you ready to build your dream? When he said yes, the next question was: Are you ready to have your dream build you?…
If you feel stuck in life, it means you are reproducing, again and again, your own reality by your own thoughts. Start changing your own reality today. Let our dreams make us. Give yourself a try! If you read these lines, this is really meant for you.
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