Community//

Waiting for the One to Fulfill Your Life?

What if I told you to date yourself first? Learn how to create a life you're wildly in love with while waiting for the one.

As a matchmaker and dating coach there are people I work with that just get it.

They show up. They do the work and they’re the ones that find the best dates.

Every single time.

When I see people becoming the best version of themselves they are the successful ones.

They are the ones that make things happen.

They don’t give up. They don’t nag and complain. They’re patient with the process and don’t rush it.

They are the ones that have interesting dating lives and enjoy the journey.

If I could give you just one tip today. It would be to become the best version of yourself. Learn how to be happy without someone. Learn how to date yourself.

When we can achieve these things we start to attract higher quality people, more dates, and more love and happiness into our lives.  

I had someone tell me that they couldn’t be happy and fulfilled until they found the “one.”  I tried to explain to this person that you are your “one.” You have to become whole without someone else.  When we become whole before finding our partner we have more to offer. A partner is not meant to complete us.  A partner is meant to compliment us. Creating the idea that we need to find someone to make us whole puts a whole lot of pressure on another person.  That’s pressure that no one should have to bear.

When we approach dating with the mindset that we “need” someone to make us whole we put blocks on the dating process.  We block healthy whole people from coming into our lives, we sabotage relationships and create unhealthy patterns immediately.  

This is why it’s so important to create a life that you’re fulfilled with before finding your “one.”  Your one will just compliment your life and make it even better. You’ll also attract more high quality dates when you are filled with happiness, passion and gratitude for the life you already have.  

I challenge you to create the life of your dreams now not “after you find a partner, after you get that job, after this or that.” Why are you waiting on doing things you love?  Why are you waiting based on future wants?

Do those things now! Right now stop what you’re doing and take one baby step towards doing something you’ve always wanted to do.  

Book that trip.

Take that class.

Go on the date.

Start that business.

Write the book.

Whatever it is take a step to fulfilling your dreams and life now.  And as you do you’ll notice the old dating patterns start to fade, maybe you’re no longer attracted to the dates going nowhere, you become fulfilled and you expect the same in your date.  It’s like magic when you put two souls together that are already fulfilled. Those are the couples that make big things happen. That create goals and dreams together.

The Thrive Global Community welcomes voices from many spheres. We publish pieces written by outside contributors with a wide range of opinions, which don’t necessarily reflect our own. Learn more or join us as a community member!
Share your comments below. Please read our commenting guidelines before posting. If you have a concern about a comment, report it here.

You might also like...

Community//

Tips From The Top: One On One With Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger

by Adam Mendler
Community//

Dating: How to just Relax & Enjoy the Process

by Puja K McClymont
Community//

FINDING YOUR SOULMATE

by Jose Angel Manaiza Jr

Sign up for the Thrive Global newsletter

Will be used in accordance with our privacy policy.

Thrive Global
People look for retreats for themselves, in the country, by the coast, or in the hills . . . There is nowhere that a person can find a more peaceful and trouble-free retreat than in his own mind. . . . So constantly give yourself this retreat, and renew yourself.

- MARCUS AURELIUS

We use cookies on our site to give you the best experience possible. By continuing to browse the site, you agree to this use. For more information on how we use cookies, see our Privacy Policy.