While living in Hong Kong I was given a task that I felt I was not qualified for. I was not confident. My lack of confidence was evident to others and my results/work started to suffer. A mentor stepped in, and gave me some advice that I will never forget:
“Do what you can, relax, ask a million questions, and believe in your work.”
The light-bulb went on, a door was opened for me. Once I got my mindset corrected, the actions changed, the confidence came, the results improved, and a trust in my abilities started to grow.
Confidence is a feeling, it is a deep-felt trust and belief that is shown through actions. Confidence is not necessarily a trust in the outcome, but a trust in the process – that no matter what happens – you have the ability to endure, survive, and then thrive in any given situation. Where does confidence come from? Confidence grows in preparation, action, and belief.
Confidence is not self-esteem. Self-esteem is about who you think you are, it is the “I am”. Confidence is about your abilities, it is the “I can”.
So, how do we gain confidence? Below are 4 transformational actions that can help lead to developing confidence:
1. Develop Expertise
Fear is the opposite of confidence. Preparation erases fear. The most prepared are usually the most successful. Experts are prepared. They have prepared for years. In order to become an expert, you must spend huge amounts of time on deliberate practice and then have the ability to maintain this effort when facing obstacles. Overcoming obstacles builds confidence. Knowing you have overcome obstacles in the past helps you face new challenges going forward.
2. Distance Yourself From Stress
One huge factor that can reduce confidence is stress. When negative stress invades our lives, our thoughts become focused on the negative rather than the positive. Dr. Travis Bradberry wrote a breakthrough article that outlines the 10 things that successful people do to stay calm and reduce stress:
3. Duplicate the Mindset of Those Who Have Confidence
More than just actions – these points are frames of mind, perspectives, and mindset adjustments. Practice one of these 9 “actions” each day. Focus on one area until it becomes part of your normal habits. Then switch to another of the 9 actions, and then keep going until you master all of them, do it until the action is a habit.
4. Decide to Believe
Decide to believe in yourself.
Decide to believe in your ability.
Decide to believe in your potential.
Decide to believe in your experience.
Decide to believe in your support team. Decide to believe in your success. Our mind controls our thoughts. Our thoughts our actions. We determine what we believe. We can all choose to believe in ourselves as well as in those in our lives who give us strength. Our ability to choose is the greatest power we have.
When we choose to believe in ourselves, we then are deciding to choose actions that lead to true confidence.
By following the 4 D’s of Confidence – Developing Expertise, Distancing Yourself from Stress, Duplication of a Confident Mindset, and Deciding to Believe – you can gain true confidence, not “fake until you make it” superficial confidence, but real, honest, self-belief that will allow you to become as successful as you are meant (or want) to be.
What are some ways you have found that help develop confidence?
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