According to Linda Graham, psychotherapist and author of Bouncing Back, resilience is: “The capacity to respond to pressures and tragedies quickly, adaptively and effectively.”
So why do we need to be resilient?
It’s inevitable that in our lifetimes, circumstances will come along that throw us off track. We can lose a job…or lose a loved one. We can argue with a coworker…or discover we’ve been betrayed at the deepest level by someone we trusted. We can be struggling with finances…or receive news that forever changes our lives in an instant. Some of these circumstances are easy enough to bounce back from while others can completely derail us. How we handle these life events has a lot to do with our wiring, our beliefs, our worldview, our thoughts, and our conditioning.
While we used to believe that our brains were fixed by around age 25, the great news is, through neuroplasticity, we can rewire our brain to harness new ways of coping; hardwiring us so that we can more easily adapt and recover from the less severe stressors as well as recover from trauma.
The more I learn about the brain, the more I respect this amazing organ and its capacity. Years ago I was a believer that “we are who we are” and I’ve since learned that while who we are may have been shaped by lots of influences like family, how we were raised, what we’ve experienced and more, we are in complete control of either staying the same, or changing our brain and propelling forward if we choose to.
So how do we do that?
That’s what I’ll be covering in this blog series but to start, here are the ways the brain is conditioned:
Becoming more resilient allows us to better handle how we respond, and handle the challenges we face. Stay tuned for ways to increase your resilience, and hardwire the brain in ways that support you and bring you closer to the body, health, life, mindset and lifestyle you want most.
Have you started a new conditioning process, like journaling or a mindfulness practice? We’d love to know, comment and share!