Most people who commit atrocities all over the world have been said to have had a difficult childhood. Today, behavioral abnormalities in individuals are on the rise. Antisocial Personality Disorders (ASPD) which defines both sociopathy and psychopathy behavior traits is society’s nightmare. This is because such individuals can not only cause physical but emotional harm to others. As a result, another cycle of deeply wounded people.
Parents and caregivers have a noble and significant role to play in making the world a better place. Happy, content, morally right and positive people enhance productivity in many ways. They also live a fruitful life and help others to do so. Challenges in life are a constant factor. See below how you can bring up emotional-social stable children and adults despite the chaos.
Emotional-social stability of the caregiver
Some parents have stepped out of the corporate world to ensure their children well being. Whether voluntary or because of the prohibitive daycare costs, this is noble. I have done it too! Sadly, many are ill-equipped. The journey is involving both emotionally and financially. Extremely involving. A Gallup study released in 2012 suggests that Stay-at-home moms report higher depression than their counterparts working. Throw in financial struggles, and the matter goes to another level.
Maternal depression is also another twist that compromises quality output from mothers. It is harder when the baby was unplanned for or first-time parents with little social support.
All caregivers need to strive for their emotional and social well being. You can only give what you have. Here are some tips to make yourself a better caregiver:
Have a social network.
Exercise, eat right and take a lot of water.
Entertain positive thoughts.
Sleep well. You need enough rest.
Good grooming will boost your self-confidence and output in general.
Foster healthy relationships
Children learn a lot in their development years. There is no better time to teach them healthy relationships from a tender age. Both by reinforcement and living it. This forms a strong base of their viewpoint later in life. Healthy touches and boundaries are better spelled out from the go.
How you respond to things as a caregiver when a child is watching imprints in the little ones in a big way. After all, they are continually learning everything from their surroundings. Of course, it includes behavior. While at it, protect them from any form of abuse. Many psychology reports confirm that children who are defiled or abused, most likely to grow into ‘social misfits.’
Solid support system
Life is inconsistent. You may have limited ability to control external factors, but ensure you walk with the children under your care through any change. Involve them. Prepare them. Be there.
Physical relocation may seem like the best thing to you, especially when upgrading. After all, you are giving the children the best, right? Not really. Children have a life of their own. Moving them to a new location means taking them to a different world. Remember they have to make new friends, learn the new environment, and if school-going, new teachers. That is tough! Too complex for the growing minds to see the best thing in leaving friends. Children who experience sudden changes like relocating too often may develop commitment problems later in life. Changing caregivers like nannies or partners also have a negative impact on the social-emotional well being of a child.
Some simple things like involving the child in the steps of moving play a crucial role in helping them overcome the change. They do not have to co-sign the lease or purchase papers of the new house. Just take them for the site visits. Let them pick fabrics, beds or any other things needed for their room. Highlight the best features of the change when talking. After the change, listen to them. Assure them that all is well.
Many people die before they live. All caregivers have a divine role. You can teach children to appreciate every moment and enjoy life as a child and adult. Quality upbringing has significant benefits to the child, yourself, and any other person that will interact with them in future. Do it right!