Is He Lying About Being Single?

6 Signs to Figure It Out

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Is he lying about being single? This is a question many women ask and it can be tough to figure out. Nothing irritates me more than a guy who pretends to single when he isn’t.

1. He doesn’t give you his
cell number

Men don’t worry about safety when it comes to women. We don’t need to too, for the most part, we are bigger and tougher than women. The only reason we don’t give a woman our phone number is because we don’t want the other woman to find out.

2. He is scheduling only daytime dates with you

You may think he is just a good guy, right? And maybe he is, but guys rarely schedule daytime dates – for one reason – sex doesn’t happen during the day! I know, I’m being shallow and you don’t want to date a guy like this anyway, but guys think about sex all day long, even the good guys. It is in our DNA to schedule a date on Friday or Saturday night. Why? We have a better chance of having sex with you! That said, I want you to schedule daytime dates, just not him!

3. He never texts you after 7

Ok, let’s say you got his phone number. Cool. But guys in relationships are scoundrels and many have multiple numbers. If you are getting texts during the day but they dry up when the sun goes down, guess what? He is with his wife or live-in girlfriend.

4. He makes excuses when asked
about a weekend trip

I know this sounds crazy but, as many of you know, I am a Dear Abner for women and I get about 30 emails every day. I have had several women who have been duped, through no fault of their own, by married guys! An overnight is almost impossible for a man who is in a relationship unless he travels all the time for work.

5. He gets interrupted when
you are on a date

Yes, it could be his boss, but it could also be his girlfriend. If he gets up and walks away from you for privacy, this should raise some red flags. When I am on a date with a woman I like, I am not taking unimportant calls. A wife or a girlfriend calling is very important.

6. He goes MIA

I saved the best (or worst) for last. You know the script, everything is going just dandy and SNAP – where did Mr. Beautiful Blue Eyes disappear too for three days? He will most likely have a great excuse that goes something like:

  • “I lost my phone and had to
    replace it”
  • “I was really busy with work”
  • “I had to help my sister move”
  • “I left you a message, didn’t
    you get it?”

I don’t know about you but when I lose my phone, my life is redirected to the Verizon store in the first five minutes. And even when I’m really busy, it takes all of 15 seconds to fire off a text while I rest on the couch. Didn’t get the message? Ah, no. This guy is a loser.

Am I being too cynical? Shouldn’t you give guys the benefit of the doubt? After all, he is paying for dinners and he has been nothing but a gentleman. No, No, and No. You are in the early screening process. Lose the rose colored glasses through which you are seeing his beautiful blue eyes and switch back to common sense.

Test men you date. If you don’t, you might get burned later. Remember, you are a high value woman and high value women have other options, set boundaries and make guys prove their worth through their actions.

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