Now’s a great time to finalize your divorce. Or, at least head in that direction. By getting your divorce on track before summer, you can make any “big” lifestyle changes while your kids are out for the break and you have long sunshine-y days.
So why should you “declutter” your divorce and get it on track? Because one thing that causes anxiety is a divorce that’s stuck – leaving you living in limbo. So, let’s get you moving on to that next, happier, healthier version of yourself.
First: Get resolved. By resolved, I mean you’ve had that insight, that knowingness that this divorce is the right step for you. You may still feel remorse, or guilt, or sadness, but if you know in your gut that divorce is the best path for you and/or your family – you’ve got to move forward.
Next: Stop researching, pondering and overthinking. It’s time for action. As a good friend of mine says, “End it. Move on.” If you are reading this post, I would bet $100 that this is not the first divorce article you’ve read this week (or even today). You’ve probably been obsessively trying to figure out the best path. Mediation? An on-demand, flat-rate legal service like Hello Divorce? Lawyer up? Now’s the time to make the leap. None of these options are mutually exclusive. If one doesn’t work, try another. But: make sure you do it.
If you’re still not sure how to approach your divorce, here’s a tip: stop Googling for advice. Focus instead on reading reliable articles from lawyers, financial professionals and legal professionals with positive reputations who don’t hide the ball. Trustworthy professionals in these fields will do everything in their power to help educate you about the divorce process and how it works in your state. And while it’s good to know (generally) what the process will look like, do not get caught in the rabbit hole of trying to solve for every single problem that “might” come your way (and likely never will). Focus on the now. Don’t overthink “what if”.
Third: Get rid of the stuff that’s holding you back. And by “stuff,” I mean anything in the way of you getting from A to B. A few examples:
Fourth: Get clear on what you do and don’t need. Divorce is not rocket science, but it sure is complicated and procedural. Even if you have a fairly amicable divorce, it’s a good idea to meet with a lawyer for one or two sessions, just to ensure you are on track and focusing on the correct stuff. Meeting with a lawyer once or twice is not “lawyering up” and you should encourage your ex to do the same. Services like my company, Hello Divorce, offer legal help on demand for a flat-rate (and transparent) fee. In addition to good general advice to help you stay on track, a lawyer can help you navigate all of the various forms and pleadings – many of which you don’t need. Use an expert to help you find the best path to the finish line.
Follow these four steps, and you’ll declutter the path to your next chapter in no time!