By Anna Gannon
My relationship has never been as turbulent as it was during my pregnancy and my first few months of motherhood.
My husband and I struggled with intimacy issues, money issues and connection issues. It was hard for us to see eye-to-eye or to understand what the other one was going through. He couldn’t understand what it was like to be pregnant or breastfeeding, and I couldn’t understand the stress he was under to provide for his growing family.
It also didn’t help that the more my belly grew, the more insecure I became. I wasn’t confident about my body which led to me worrying that he wouldn’t find me attractive anymore and leave me. This only led to more unresolved fights.
While I’ve worked for Expectful I’ve learned that these relationship issues are extremely common during our transition into parenthood. I’ve found that a lot of our insecurities are the same. Many of us feel unattractive. Many of us argue over money issues and many of us have trouble connecting with our partners during all of this rapid change.
Once I realized how common these relationship problems were I started to look for ways in which my husband and I could support each other through them. With some patience, compassion and understanding we were able to grow together. Below are three tools we used to keep our relationship strong during our journey. I hope these help you to feel more connected to your partner and allow you to enjoy each other throughout this adventure.
One thing that really helped my husband and I during our path to becoming new parents was deciding to start meditating together. Throughout my pregnancy and after my daughter’s arrival, we set out time to do Expectful’s Couples Meditations. Often we would sit back-to-back so we could physically feel ourselves supporting one another while we connecting in the present moment. This practice helped us to have a space just for us that we could escape to when we needed it.
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Originally published at expectful.com