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How To Be Mysterious Without Playing Games

Being mysterious is the key to building a exciting and lasting relationship. However, being mysterious doesn't equal to play hard to get. Read this article and learn how to be mysterious without playing mind games.

How To Be Mysterious Without Playing Games

Playing hard to get is one of the common strategies that many people using when it comes to dating. However, did you know that if you don’t know how to play it well, it will ruin your chance with your Mr. Right? In this article, you will discover the ways on how to be mysterious without playing games.

Many men believe that women are the ones holding back all the carding when it comes to dating; however, many women think otherwise. So, who is right?

It all depends on perspective. From a woman’s perspective she must capture the man’s attention to encourage him to pursue her. From a man’s perspective, he may pursue her and then be rejected. So how can you get him to pursue you and let him know that you’re interested without playing games with his mind or his pocketbook?

The art of being mysterious seemed to fade away with the death of old Hollywood films. Suddenly, the women’s movement opened up whole new vistas for women to pursue but left them striving to compete like a man in a man’s world. That doesn’t do much to being a mysterious woman while encouraging a man to be interested in you.

Being mysterious engages his curiosity and as humans, we are naturally curious people. We are drawn to the unknown, which is probably why so many horror films and scary movies are popular. They play on the curiosity and interest that we have in the unknown.

Mystery also plays into the part of our brains that manufacture fantasies. Men begin to imagine all kinds of things about a woman who is mysterious and she’s caught his attention and interest before he’s really had a chance to even get to know her. Men imagine what she might be like, what she’s hiding, what she does and how she does it.

They are driven to solve the puzzles and discover the woman beneath the veil of mystery. When you use this process right he’ll figure out who you are and will still be interested in pursuing you and developing a relationship with you.

So you should never let the mystery fade. Even 20 years into a marriage there are still things that you can do to surprise him and arouse his interest once more. And that’s the fire that stokes his interest. It’s his interest that keeps him coming back to you for more and more.

Sometimes, a shy woman is perceived as mysterious. Because a confident woman will be more expressive at social events; have good people skills and she won’t hide her femininity – all of which is part of being mysterious. However, a confident woman can learn to act mysterious without compromising her confidence and her integrity.

In fact, hold back all the juicy details about yourself is advisable at the begining stage of love; however, he should know that there you will tell him more when the time is right. but do it so he knows there is more to tell when you’re ready.

Don’t be expansive in your speech but rather use fewer words. Men are used to women who talk a LOT and they have a tendency to tune them OUT.

Instead, you be the woman who says less and keeps his attention.

Being mysterious does not mean acting with superiority. In fact, it’s the opposite of superiority by being humble, yet confident. Those great qualities will make you become an irresistible woman. Naturally, it will inspire desires in your guy to chase after you.

You can be mysterious with you guy by doing something different, exposing just a little more of your personality each time you’re together or suggesting an activity he wouldn’t think you’d enjoy.

If you normally dress business casual but enjoy rock climbing, then suggest rock climbing for a date, followed by dining at a restaurant neither of you has ever tried.

You might think it’s difficult to be mysterious with someone close to you, but it is just as difficult as you make. It’s time to think outside the box with your relationship. Call him instead of waiting for him to call you. Wait for him to call, instead of always being the one to pick up the phone. Make plans that aren’t what you might normally do. Tell him a secret, but not the whole thing. Tell the rest at another time. He’ll be waiting to hear more and be so grateful that you trusted him enough to tell him.

Being mysterious is the part of life you should never overlook. It will bring colors into our routine life and will ignite the fire and strengthen the bondings.

And with a bit of practice, you can carefully use this strategy to keep him interested and chasing you without ever playing a mind game.

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