I am sure that all of you have experienced this with yourself or with someone else: that moment when you are saying something that reflects confidence and strength but your eyes show tears, meaning that they are showing the opposite of what you are saying. Sometimes, a person can say that he/she is independent and doesn’t have feelings for a certain person he/she used to have feelings for, but his/her eyes would show tears. I am sure you have noticed such phenomena with yourself and with someone you know. Even though it’s strange, you may have disregarded the fact that eyes showed tears. But there’s a big reason for that. It shows that we have two minds, one mind thinks and the other feels. One is a rational mind, and the other is an emotional mind.
These two minds are different systems of our learning and both of them are working together to build our mental life. The rational mind is a conscious mind, which we are aware of: we can notice it better, it’s thinking, capable of analyzing. The emotional mind is: powerful and impulsive, fast, and sometimes illogical.
The stronger the feeling that we have the more dominant the emotional mind becomes, and the weaker the rational mind becomes. Such an agreement between two minds happened during the evolution when it was important for our emotional mind to be more important during emergency situations to help us survive when our life is under a big threat because at such moments there’s no time to pause and think.
These two minds are both needed in order to guide us through life, through different, complicated situations, and they are working as a team very well most of the time. Usually, there’s a balance between rational and emotional minds, but sometimes the emotional mind becomes much stronger. But still, emotional and rational minds are independent abilities that rely on each other at the same time. They make different work in our brain but these different systems are linked to each other. Most of the time these two minds cooperate with each other well; thoughts and feelings are dependent on each other, one cannot exist without the other. But when we become passionate about something, it’s the emotional mind that becomes the strongest, and the rational mind goes away into shadow at such a moment.