Effective Ways of Resolving Conflicts in a Family

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Is there any danger of arguing with your child, husband, or wife? People in a family may behave, think, or act in different ways. Therefore, these people are likely to disagree with one another regularly because of their differences. Although they are not expected to agree all the time, members of a family should be able to discuss their problems freely.

Both parents and children should also learn and practice to make some sacrifices because we need efforts to build strong relationships. On the other hand, resolve disagreements as soon as possible because they can cause stress in the family. Thus, you should look for ways of resolving conflicts in your family.

Resolving Conflicts in a family starts with you

Adults are the ones that set rules in any home and other family members follow them. Young ones, on the other hand, imitate the actions and speech of their parents. Therefore when you as a parent use violence during arguments, then your kids will imitate you. They will think that shouting at one another or fighting is the best way to deal with disagreements.

When disagreements occur between family members, they should try to control their anger. They should take time to calm down before discussing it with the person who wronged them. You, as a parent, should show your child that disagreeing with others is a normal part of life.

However, they should learn how to resolve conflicts in a family successively without hurting one another.

Cultivate Skills for Resolving Conflicts in a Family


It is a two-way exchange of feelings and thoughts. For individuals to solve their differences well, they should have respect and speak in a way that others can understand easily. Most of the teenagers do not like speaking up when they have a problem.

As a parent, you can help your children to cultivate positive ways of speaking out their feelings and thoughts. Being able to express themselves will help them during their process of resolving conflicts with those close to them.


Parents should train kids how to listen and understand other family members’ concerns and needs. You and your children should learn how to stop and listen with empathy before giving a solution or suggestion. Listening will help them to understand why their brother or sister wants something done their way.

At times, listening with empathy may not help in resolving conflicts in the family.

The issues may be too big for the young ones, and it may require you as the parent to intervene. Failure to step in, the problem may continue and lead to physical fights. Since their solution did not work, listen attentively to their complaints and find an alternative

Be friendly

To resolve conflicts in a family, both parents and children should be friendly. It involves being inviting to others that want to talk to you. Young ones should avoid locking themselves in their rooms after a misunderstanding since it shows that they want to be left alone.

Still, as a parent, you should be available when your children want to talk to you. Family members should also set aside time to chat with each other now and then. 


Parents help your children to participate in solving misunderstandings in your home. As a parent, teach your young ones to reach out to those that they offend in a positive way. Another point is that both you as a parent and your children, should learn to stay calm when resolving conflicts in the family. It is especially important when one is being blamed or accused by another.

Further, rather than get angry with the other or withdraw when a conflict arises, you should train your children to take some time out. Walking away from the situation will help them to calm down before going back to the problem.

They should also learn that before reporting the disagreement to you, they should have tried to resolve their disputes. Kids should understand that resolving conflicts in a family is part of their lives. The practice will assist them when they leave home and begin to live alone or with strangers.

Bottom Line

Disagreements with people close to us is normal but it can be a source of stress at home. After an argument, family members should be ready to discuss their problems.

It is your responsibility as a parent to train your young ones on the benefits of solving their differences immediately they occur. Teach them to resolve disputes quickly; they happen because any delay can worsen the situation.

Further, instead of rushing to report a problem to you, the child should try to solve it alone first. For them to succeed, they should cultivate useful skills in resolving conflicts in their families. Therefore, every family member should communicate well, listen keenly, be friendly, and cooperate.  

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