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Do Girls Like Shy Guys? How Can You Date Girls

For the most part, women love a confident man. And while a little machismo can get you a long way, it is not to say that the underdog shy guys do not stand a chance. Believe it or not, a lot of girls are really into shy guys!

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Down but not out

For the most part, women love a confident man. And while a little machismo can get you a long way, it is not to say that the underdog shy guys do not stand a chance. Believe it or not, a lot of girls are really into shy guys!

Below, we will take a look at what exactly it is that attracts women to shy guys. Most importantly, you will learn how to play to your strengths to get the girl of your dreams while remaining shy.

So, do girls like shy guys?

The answer here is a resounding, yes!

And I don’t just mean ‘yes, they think you are a little cute but not necessarily attractive.’

Women do often gravitate towards the quieter and more reserved personalities as a welcome break from all the noise and drama of overconfident guys!

So, what exactly is it that they like about shy guys?

Silence is attractive

Girls love mystery, and there is truly nothing as enthralling as a closed book of a man. It will awaken in her a desire to want to be the one to crack you open and find out all the juicy secrets and details that make you who you are.

The good listener

Shy guys are typically considered great listeners when it comes to romantic relationships. That is another reason why girls might find you irresistible despite your inability to approach them. So, don’t always fight it – being quiet and reserved could serve as a bonus for you.

Sweetheart personalities

There is also the tendency to relate quietness and shyness with kind hearts and sweet personalities, which are qualities a lot of women want in a man.

You will come across as the sweet and sensitive guy that has been missing in her life. Honestly, there’s no better way to appear in the eyes of a woman than as a trustworthy, loving and affectionate partner.

How to get girls as a shy guy

So, now you can breathe a sigh of relief with the reassurance that women are not turned off by a shy guy, but on the contrary, may find you very intriguing.

To help you make the most of this very fertile ground, here are four tips on how to get and keep a woman as a shy guy.

Be yourself

If a girl is going to fall in love with you as a shy guy, it will not be because of your introverted tendencies; it will be because of your personality and what makes you unique.

So be yourself.

Do not try too hard to be exciting or mysterious. She will see right through it, and you will lose her faster than you can say “shy.”

Find common ground

No matter how attractive your silence is, a time will come when you will have to talk. The last thing you want here is to have the conversations go stale and turn awkward.

Therefore, it is always best to play it safe and find common ground. Something that you are both interested in means that you will both contribute to the conversation for awesome back and forth banter.

Appreciate your strengths

If you want to get a beautiful woman on your side, you need to believe in yourself.

I know, we said that girls already like you the way you are. And while it is ok to be shy and introverted, it is vital to have some sense of self-worth and confidence.

Don’t worry; you don’t have to turn into a social butterfly macho man all of a sudden. Just give yourself some credit where it is due.

Try online dating

To get a woman as a shy guy, you must first meet her.

I know getting out of your comfort zone might be a bit much to ask so soon. However, you could find a healthy compromise by trying online dating.

Moving your search online will allow you to broaden your horizons by exposing you to new people without threatening your personal space.

But, you have to be very wise in terms of what dating sites for shy guys you choose to work with.

Here are three that could be perfect for you:

  • SingleandShy.com
  • FriendFinder.com
  • IntrovertDatingSite.com
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