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Challenges of Being a Single Mother

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Depending on the circumstances that made you a single mother you will face some challenges. Raising a kid as a single mother is never an easy task. Whether you are divorced, widowed, co-parenting or never married the problems you are bound to face are similar.

Once you cross the other side of raising your kid alone-life is never the same again. Your solely responsible for your child, all burden is upon you. You face sleepless nights alone when your child has a terrible fever, all expenses and bills are upon you to settle.

Talks about the absent father figure will always hurt

The society will raise questions on why your partner abandoned you. Most people view single mothers as homewreckers and irresponsible people who got themselves pregnant before marriage. When talks about your absent partner occur, you are bound to be hurt by those hateful talks.

Filling the role of both a mother and a father

A father plays a significant role in the growing up of a child. No matter how comfortable you are bringing up a child alone, you can never fill the role of a father. You will work tirelessly to play both positions, but in reality, it’s unachievable.

It becomes difficult to date again

You are responsible for your child, and all your efforts are driven towards the child. Even if you want companionship dating becomes almost impossible. You are anxious about introducing another man to your child, which makes you not to date at all.

Feeling lonely

Especially if you don’t have family members and friends, who are not supporting you. A feeling of loneliness is widespread, you have to bring up your kids alone without any support. You have hardly any time for your social life, and you tend to be isolated from the outside world.

Coping With the Challenges

Accept help

No matter how you think you have everything under your control, you need help from your family and friends. Once in a while allow your friends and family to babysit your kid, so you can have time to relax. You can also get financial help from your friends and families.

Believe in yourself

It is hard to be in control and entirely being depended upon, but have faith in yourself. Believing in yourself will help to cope with the challenges of being a single mother.

Make time for yourself

Your social life has been limited due to your kids’ demands, but you need to make time for yourself. Your free time helps you relieve the stress of having all bills and responsibilities piling on you.

Bottom Line

Raising a kid alone is not an easy task, you need help. Being a single mother comes with many challenges, but your kid must grow and go to school regardless of the problems you face as a single mother. Learn to cope with the issues and try to balance between your role as a mother and your social life.

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