How to Let Your Child Know He is Distinctive
There’s an invisible thread between you and your child. This is because you know more than anyone what makes him distinctive. You know his strengths and special qualities. Does he know you know them?
Children often go to school and feel part of the masses. They ride the school bus with a bunch of noisy kids. They pay attention to the tasks of the school day including the routines, lining up with a group to go to certain classes and events, following rules set for all. But do they have a core sense inside of them that they are distinctive?
This is where you come in. Here are four suggestions:
It might be his cheerful grin, his techy talent, his special ability to show he’s grateful like remembering to say thank-you making others feel good. It might be grander than all that, but whatever makes him distinctive, it is important that it is noticed. If you notice it and say so, then he’ll notice and know, too.
Don’t embarrass him but let him know that others also notice his distinction.
If it’s not a particular ability, but something like a cheerful disposition, ask him how he feels when he affects others around him. Does he realize he has such an impact on peers and adults? How else can he use this trait?
Why It’s Important to Feel Distinct
The Parent-Child Relationship
When your child knows you think of him as distinctive, he feels loved and approved of which builds your relationship. It lets him realize he is recognized and validated by the person whom he loves. He takes this appreciation inside of him and carries it around even when you’re not together.
This builds a core sense of self that is sustained throughout his growing years. When he runs into tricky situations or conflicts with others, this inner sense of self will help him forge his way through such tough patches. A child knowing that he is distinctive helps him feel a sense of strength that perhaps only a parent can give a child when they are young.
It’s a special gift from YOU.