“Alone time is when I distance myself from the voice of the world so I can hear my own.”Oprah
We’ve all struggled within the depths of others. Company. Constantly being around others makes you feel like you have no time to yourself, but I’ve battled with this over and over and finally, I won, and I’ve got a bag of tricks to sell to you. No matter how busy of a schedule you have, you can always fit these small things into your daily life to make sure you get your time to be by yourself because the constant presence of others can mess up your perfectly organized life.
1. Schedule Your Alone Time
Schedule. Your. Alone. Time. Simply, by setting aside 30 minutes every day, whether it’s at night before bed or in the middle of the day, you can get your time of peace. Some ways anyone can do this is either waking up 30 minutes earlier just to be by yourself with no distractions. No distractions. Distractions can make you feel irritated that your time alone was cut short, leaving you miserable for the rest of the day.
2. Quiet Time (Cut out all noise)
Another way to get your alone time is to cut out all noise. Meaning no music, no radio, audiobooks, fan, rain sounds, that’s right, no rain sounds. To use your alone time effectively, you need to have complete silence to focus on your thoughts, otherwise you become distracted and can’t focus. Just thinking about the day or the week will help calm you down, there are so many things that we have to think about but not enough time and your brain gets a little exhausted just trying to remember everything you have to do and how many things you need to remember.
3. Calming Music
Although it’s good to get quiet, peaceful time, music can also help calm you down. Especially guitar, classical, and just something mellow. Nothing too complicated or upbeat, something you’d listen to on a rainy day or on a road trip driving down the California Coast. Earbuds or headphones can also be used effectively. Putting on your headphones can signal to others to not talk to you or to just leave you be, therefore getting your alone time. This could work either at school or work or wherever you go. Just listening to music alone (headphones if you use public transport) during your commute can let you feel relaxed while your mind only focuses on the beat of the music and not the outside world.
4. Stay Off Social Media
It’s in the word, SOCIAL. Social means people. Staying off social media can give you complete relief and not the constant stress of FOMO (fear of missing out) and checking your phone for new notifications, we all do it. Think about the world around you, you’ll suddenly feel happier that there are no more things you have to worry about, no more interactions that you need. Try this for a day to get a feel for not having social media, I challenge you to put every social app in a folder on your phone and store it on the last page of your phone (make sure you have to swipe far to get to it). For one day, DO NOT go on anything of the sort, and if it’s too hard, I’ll do it with you. I do it every week for one day. Try and make space, being on your phone can waste so much time, and that may be the reason you don’t have enough alone time.
5. Find a Thought Bubble
Find a thought bubble. A space where you can be to just admire something you love. For me, it would be nature. Your thought bubble could simply either be a park or your closet, wherever you feel safe to think. Whenever you feel overwhelmed, just go to your space and think. There’s no crime for thinking and just breaking down what’s happened. It’s healthy. Think of your thought bubble like a town, for now, you’re a citizen, but as soon as you get more comfortable and more confident, you’ll become mayor.