When it comes to relationships, there’s no golden rule or guidebook to follow. No one can help you choose between being together, being yourself, being the victim, or being happy.
1. Uncontrollable episodes of impulsive aggression.
Sometimes even the cool-headed ones can flip out, but it shouldn’t become a common thing. If your partner gets angry easily, especially when the situation isn’t that stressful, such relationships can be dangerous.
Uncontrollable impulsive aggression always leads to emotional, economic, and physical violence.
2. It’s almost impossible to plan your future together.
What are the main characteristics of a functional relationship? Mutual confidence, a sense of security, and plans for that far-off future together. It’s all different in an unhealthy relationship: you don’t even have short-term plans, and you’re trying to find an excuse for why you’re still together.
If you never talk or can’t ever think about your future, it’s one of those signs you’re in a toxic relationship that leads to nowhere.
3. Your partner is too jealous.
You’re dating an overly jealous and possessive freak if he or she causes big scenes in public, controls your calls, social media use, etc.
You have to realize it’s not love. It’s a form of psychological abuse, and it shouldn’t be ignored.
4. You live in isolation.
Your loved one is trying to isolate you from your friends and family, forbids you from using your phone or car, or maybe even prevents you from finding a good job? Those are relationship red flags.
It’s a form of domestic abuse that leads to psychological and economic dependence on your partner.
5. You’re unhappy in your relationship.
If you often feel unhappy, uncomfortable, stressed, or even burdened, it’s the first and most important sign you’re in a destructive dead-end relationship.
Just be honest with yourself, and admit that you’re in a “toxic“ relationship. Try to identify what ”benefits” this relationship brings to you. For example, it saves you from the fear of loneliness, or you’re too afraid to be on your own and you like to depend financially and emotionally on your partner.