3 Steps to Set & Achieve Goals Like a Boss

Can you be more specific, please?

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  1. Can you be more specific, please?

If you’ve followed me for a little while, you know that I have a fascination with Michael Phelps.

Not with watching him swim, but learning HOW he does it.

How does he consistently beat records, crush competition, and be the absolute greatest?

Well, for one, he has a coach. No doubt, he would not see this type of success without a coach.

Another secret to his success is that he writes out his goals.

Not like, “I want to be the fastest swimmer in the world.”

But, he specifically writes out his goals for each stroke and distance to the hundredth second.

We are so trained to hide our numbers. How old are you? How much do you weigh? How much do you make? [shudder]

So, if you have a goal in mind, be as absolutely specific as you can be. Write it down. Post it on your mirror.

Believe it. Then, crush it.

2. There is no magic pill.

Sorry to break this to you… but there is no magic pill.

Trust me, I’ve learned the hard way…

I’ve convinced myself before that if I could just afford this one program, my goals will be achieved and I would be supermodel, ruler of the world.

Here’s what I’ve learned: don’t let anyone tell you that they can fix your problem overnight with one solution.

Ask anyone who has been successful for more than five minutes at anything and they will tell you that there is no such thing as an overnight success.

Yes, there are people and programs that will absolutely help you.

But, it has to be in addition to hard-work, mistakes, and experience on YOUR part. Over and over and over again.

So, when you feel stuck, you aren’t. You just need more hard-work, mistakes, and experience.

Don’t waste your time and money on that non-existent magic pill.

3. For the love of margaritas on the rocks, go EASY on yourself.

We all want to lose weight, make more money, be organized, improve our home…

But, instead of thinking of all of the areas that you want to improve and change, focus on ONE thing.

Make one change at a time, one step at a time. Once that becomes a habit, add the next change and the next step. Too much all at once is overwhelming and can set you up for failure.

None of this matters if you don’t put yourself first

When you put yourself first, you will love yourself and your life despite the areas that you want to improve. And all of a sudden, those other things won’t matter so much anymore.

Because let’s face it. How much is your life going to actually change if your closet is organized? Or, if you lose 5 pounds? Or, if you make 10% more income? But, you still aren’t happy with YOU?

Yeah, it would feel good, but there will always be something else.

Put yourself first, learn to love you, and go easy on yourself.

Then, everything else falls right into place.

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