Life can be so treacherously unpredictable! Overnight, the human life can take a hit and a turn for the worse. So many problems are woven into the vicious loops of human life. These problems come in different dimensions and degrees.
Life can be so treacherously unpredictable! Overnight, the human life can take a hit and a turn for the worse. So many problems are woven into the vicious loops of human life. These problems come in different dimensions and degrees.
Some incorrigibly linger on in your life. Others fizzle out but leave behind sore scars. These kind of problems redefine your life and threaten the foundation of the cores of your values. They are life changers.
Of course, problems are part of life. What you really need is a mechanism that helps you cushion their effects.
The following three problems are arguably the most devastating blows you can receive.
1. Permanent physical disabilities
Physical disabilities can come in different forms and from different sources. But accidents and illnesses are the two major culprits.
Once your disability comes to your knowledge, the first thing you need is to let go of your emotion. Cry if you feel like, don’t pull any macho or stoical stunt!
Then you need to come to terms with the realities. Adjust your life to your condition. Make amendments where necessary and learn whatever new skill you may need. You need a well-planned rehabilitation programme to reconcile your ‘past self’ and your ‘present self’. Your therapist will see to that.
You may want to join a group or go for counselling once you’re out of hospital. It helps when you hear from people who have successfully gone through similar experiences.
2. Diagnosis of a terminal illness
This usually brings about tremendous changes in your life. It is always heart-shattering. Since the news often comes as an utter surprise – you weren’t expecting anything as devastating as that.
Your number one priority should be how to improve the quality of your remaining time. There is no better time to live your life to the fullest.
You may want a change of environment. May be this is the time for you to finally move to a place or country of your dream.
And if you’ve got the money, moving safely overseas, despite your condition, shouldn’t cause you any loss of sleep.
Going with your immediate family is not negotiable because you need them around you when you breathe your last. I know you don’t want to die in a hospice.
Applying yourself to philanthropic work is another endeavour that is capable of giving you lots of good vibes.
Then, you must dare death!
Write your last wishes and tell them to whoever is willing to listen. This makes your spirit soar up high and triumph over death.
3. Loss of a loved one
This might be as a result of death or end of a relationship. In either case, your lifestyle is bound to change somewhat negatively. In fact, many people in the past have suffered from depression as a result of bereavement or divorce. And some of them sunk to the point of committing suicide.
To avoid any unsavoury eventuality, you need to gather as much support as you can from friends and family. The vacuum needs to be filled up with positive activities.
Embrace life, you just have to. You must move on, even your dead want you to live a fulfilled life.
Finally, for every life changing problem, talking to a professional is desirable. And since the changes can’t be helped even if you brood for the rest of forever, it’s just sensible that you learn to live with them well.