Many people feel more at ease giving than receiving.
I relate to being a serial giver. From childhood, I was the kid who wore her heart on her sleeve and loved nothing more than to do nice things for others. Giving is where I learned to shine. I loved surprising my friends and family with thoughtful gifts, acts and words. My generous nature gave me a way to connect with others — it gave me the external validation I was hungry for.
Giving to others is still a big part of my life to this day. But now I strive to balance my giving with receiving, for a number of important reasons.
Here are three of the reasons why receiving is just as important as giving. Perhaps these ideas will resonate with where you are.
There is nothing remotely wrong with being a compassionate person, or someone who enjoys giving back. It becomes an issue when we forget we must also open our hearts to receive.
When we give too much energy out and not enough back in, we create a serious feeling of disharmony. This imbalance can disrupt the energy behind our acts of giving.
When we open up to receive more, we replenish and balance our energy. Then we can start to give from a place of strength and wholeness. This kind of giving impacts both parties in a healthy, happy way.
If we want to get more comfortable receiving, we can start each day saying yes to the life we are in and thank you for what is before us. Instead of distracting ourselves away from self-care, or shying away from being in a receiving role — we can say yes to following through with fulfilling activities and exchanges.
We honor ourselves every time we say yes to living fully, and no to giving our energy where we don’t truly want to give it.
When we balance our giving and receiving, those who receive from us get the gift of our open heart. Those who give to us, receive the gift of our open arms.
Balance is the key ingredient for maintaining momentum in the giving and receiving cycle.
Giving for the sake of gaining approval from others is another trap serial givers often fall into. The way to combat this cycle, is to open up and give ourselves the: compassion, love, support, approval etc. we may be searching for.
Receiving isn’t always about opening up so others will give us their help, time, attention or resources. It often starts with giving ourselves the gift of self-love and acceptance.
Self-care is a must when you are a caregiver, or someone who gives a lot of energy out to others. Each of us has the power to give ourselves acceptance and love. We can choose to start each day from this way of being.
Direct time, attention and love back towards yourself through a regular self-care practice. Practice saying yes to yourself each time you do something that’s just for you.
It can be uncomfortable and foreign territory to go from being a serial giver to an open receiver. But the more we give ourselves the gift of receiving, the lighter we feel — the further our giving reach becomes.
Our intention behind why we give is just as important as the actual gift itself. Giving without strings or great expectations attached is uplifting. It’s also liberating to eliminate giving from a place of guilt or pressure.
When serial givers get really clear on their intention behind giving, they open the path to receive.
If you are unsure what your intention behind giving might be — you can simply ask yourself. Then get quiet and allow the answer to come.
If you want to change your intention, there are simple ways you can redirect your energy towards giving and receiving in a healthier way.
When you know you don’t have the time, energy or resources to give — step away from feeling guilty for saying no. Release guilt by acknowledging you’re actually saying yes to honoring yourself. You also are saying yes to honoring the other person by being honest.
When we say yes to ourselves, we open up to receive more lightness and joy in our moments. When we direct energy back to ourselves, we break the cycle of exhaustion.
When we are fulfilled from within, it becomes easier to establish healthy and clear boundaries with others.
If your intention is to help and give to others because it’s truly where you want to put your time and attention — see what changes when you give from a heart-based place of being ‘all in’.
When we are clear on our intention, the exchanges we have with others are meaningful and powerful. When we are clear, we can give ourselves what we really need instead of seeking it in a giving role.
With clarity, our giving can become more purposeful and aligned with our integrity and authenticity. There is no greater gift than giving from a place of truth.
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