We all want successful relationships in our lives, yet we all manage to sabotage them; One way or another and at some point or another. Sometimes we do it because we don’t know better, other times because we’re mad, and other times because we get afraid when a relationship gets too good so we end up messing it up. Yet beyond the fear, beyond the mess-up, beyond all our layers and all the walls we put up, we truly want our relationships to work, to be happy, to evolve and be successful.
Getting to that point in any of your relationships depends of a few key factors though:
I’m not talking be honest about the little things. Yes, tell her she looks beautiful when she wakes up and tell him little lies that make him feel more confident, but never ever lie about the things that actually matter. Not even little lies, not about things that could potentially turn into big things.
You’re in a relationship therefore there will be fights, there will be misunderstandings, there will be moments when you want to pour your heart out and say what’s in your heart. Unless you belong to the Housewives of *you pick the city*, there is no reason you can’t wait to have that conversation or even fight if you will until you get home.
There’s always this phenomenon of gaining up on people just to be part of the bandwagon. You should never be part of that bandwagon when it comes to the person you’re in a relationship with. You can tease them as much as you want, but whenever anyone gangs up on him/her, always be the first to defend them. Remember you are a team in front of the rest of the world, whether that’s your family, your friends, or just random people.
Sometimes we get mad, sometimes things get heated up… When you feel you’re close to saying things you should never say to your loved one, just take a step back. If you’ve already said something that you know was wrong, apologize the second you realize it and make sure your partner understand that it’s not how you actually feel, but that you were mad and just blurted out something stupid.
You know that saying: never go to bed angry. Well sometimes that’s just the best thing you can do. Go to bed angry, sleep on it, before you say or do something you might regret.
Whether you realize it or not, the success of your relationship depends on little things just as much as the big things and following these simple steps will not only insure the success of your relationship, but will also support you in having a happier and more thriving life every single day.
Originally published at medium.com