Is your life feeling hard right now? Read these words and important reminders.
I wrote this article to send strength and faith out into the universe. I hope that wherever this finds you it gives you light and a reminds you to stay positive, stay strong, and keep your head up.
Here are a few things to remember when life gets really hard:
Everything in life is temporary. Every time it rains, it stops raining. Every time you get hurt, you heal. Your mind might tell you that this will last forever. It won’t. Nothing lasts forever. After darkness there is always light and this too shall pass.
You are strong enough to rise above this. Life is tough, but you are tougher. No matter how much it hurts, hold your head up and keep going. You were given this challenge because you are strong enough to handle it. Use each setback, each disappointment as a cue to push on ahead with more determination than ever before. Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.
“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” ― Maya Angelou
Where you are right now is a necessary step. You are not what you have done, you are what you have overcome. Your struggles are part of your path. No pain comes without a purpose. Pain is part of growing and living a stronger, more meaningful life. This is important to remember when you’re having a rough day, a bad month, or a crappy year. When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can go right. Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to get to your best.
You can’t have happiness without sadness. Its important to understand that you cant know real joy without real sadness. Life’s ups require life’s downs. When you are able to let go and be at peace with the reality of these ups and downs is when you are able to find more meaning from any challenge.
“Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” — Joshua J. Marine
Its OK to not be OK all the time. It’s ok to cry. It’s ok to have meltdowns. It’s ok to not have it all together. It’s OK and actually, it’s important. If you just “shove it under the rug” and ignore hurt, pain, or upset it stays with you and negatively effects your life. Allow yourself to feel. Give yourself space to be sad. Don’t be afraid to fall apart for a little while. You have to FEEL it to HEAL it. Because when you do that, the situation will open into an opportunity for you to heal from it, grow from it, and rebuild yourself into a stronger person because of it.
“Don’t forget you’re human. It’s okay to have a meltdown, just don’t unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed.”
Being kind to yourself is the best medicine. When it feels like everything is going wrong, show yourself some extra TLC. Simple pleasures and self-love can help alleviate suffering, whether it’s watching a comedy, using your favorite tea cup, being in nature, hanging with animals, listening to your favorite album, or taking a mini retreat to your favorite place. Whatever works for you. Show yourself a little extra kindness, care, and love when life gets hard.
Sometimes not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. It forces you to reevaluate things, opening new doors to opportunities and information you would have otherwise overlooked.
Don’t stop Believing. Just because life didn’t go as planned doesn’t mean you’ll never be happy again. Sometimes you have to go through difficulties, breakups, rejections and painful wounds, in order to gradually discover these powerful truths: 1) Life is not exactly how you thought it was. 2) The loss of one wonderful pleasure is not necessarily the loss of true, long-term happiness and well-being. Life rarely turns out exactly the way you want it to, but you always have an opportunity to make it great.
No matter what, today is a priceless gift and its up to you to make the best of it. There is always, always, always, something to be grateful for. Strength comes when you have so much to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and appreciate your life instead.
“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.” — Vivian Greene
You are not alone. We’ve all faced loss, fear, heartbreak, and sadness. So many of us are fighting the same exact battle alongside you. We are all in this together. Letting others in when you’re having a hard time helps. Let yourself lean on your loved ones and open up to them. No, they won’t always be able to pull you out of the challenge you’re in, but they will be able to give you some light and love on your way through.
Be positive, patient and persistent. Learn to trust the journey even when you don’t understand it. The strongest people aren’t the people who always win, but the people who don’t give up when they lose.
The dots will connect. We’re not going to always understand why everything happens in our lives. There are things that break us, challenge us, and test our limits. There are things that are not removed and situations that take a long time to change. You have to trust that it is what’s best for you. Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be. As Steve Jobs so famously said, “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.” Trust that your dots will connect. Have faith in yourself and in the future.
The best thing you can do is choose to be positive and keep going. You can’t control everything that happens to you; you can only control the way you respond to what happens. Your response is your power over whatever challenge you may face. So “Keep Calm and Carry On”. Smiling doesn’t always mean you’re happy with everything. Sometimes it just means you’re strong and smart enough to accept it and make the best of it.
If you can breathe, you can make it through anything. When fear, anxiety, worry, or stress sets in, stop yourself and take a minute to regroup. Don’t get too far ahead of yourself worrying about what might happen next. You don’t have any control over that. But you DO have the present moment. Take a DEEP breath and stay committed to being right here, right now. Just take it one day at a time and keep breathing. You’ll make it.
Those are some reminders I’ve used to help myself through challenges and tough times. What is one reminder that helps you stay strong when life gets really hard? Let me know your words of encouragement in the comments below.
At the end of the day, I hope that whatever you might be going through you know that:
1. You will get through it
2. You will be stronger for it
3. You will find more greatness out of life because of it.
I’m sending you positive energy and love my friends.
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Originally published at www.carolinejordanfitness.com on July 30, 2016.
Originally published at medium.com