Simple Life Hacks for Finding Your BLISS

My Daily Mantra and the Importance of Remembering to Play

Lori Harder 

What’s the first thing you do when you get out of bed?

The first thing I do that’s important to my day is done while I’m still in bed and that is say a mantra out loud and then a prayer of thanks that helps me switch from not wanting to get out of bed, to getting grateful for another day that I get to choose how I look at it. My husband and I have said “I am happier, healthier, wealthier and more fit than I was yesterday” for the past 4+ years. This may seem cheesy but it works for us a reminder to switch our thoughts to what we desire instead of how we may feel. This can take a few tries until I actually sound like someone who believes it.

What gives you energy?

What gives me energy is learning and play. When I start getting tired often through my days I know it’s time for a major switch up in my schedule and my any leisure time. The weird thing is, what gives me life also gives me the most resistance around doing it! I know this is pretty normal and common when I talk to people because it’s not familiar or routine and sometimes the planning is the hardest part. We forget that the good stuff doesn’t come easy or flow naturally sometimes so it requires planning and showing up, much like a workout. But I always remember this adds so much value to life if I just get out of my own way and force in some play and learning to my days and weeks.

What’s your secret life hack?

Support my body and soul and this supports my message. If one of those is neglected for too long – my purpose feels confusing and I feel uninspired and tired and it also reflects in my business.

Name a book that changed your life.

A book that changed my life was The War Of Art by Stephen Pressfield – he truly described my entire journey around what it actually looks like to tame my inner toddler that appears every time I start to really dig into what I know is most important for my soul’s evolution and how to get through it.

Tell us about your relationship with your phone. Does it sleep with you?

My phone is in the friend zone after about 8PM. I try to do earlier if I am not in some form of launch mode for a program. I feel it’s energy when it’s my room so it stays downstairs. I swear when it’s near me I actually feel like I’m open for business, so to truly shut it all down I actually have to leave it in other rooms and I leave it at home on walks each evening with my husband.

How do you deal with email?

Email and I have a love hate relationship. I am learning to set aside boxes of time each day that are just for email. I try not to go in and check unless I have time to respond or I am just robbing time where I could be doing something I love or recharging.

You unexpectedly find 15 minutes in your day, what do you do with it?

Hands down – cuddle my dog Waffles on the floor (she is pure peace and love) or close my eyes out in my backyard and get quiet.

When was the last time you felt burned out and why?

Honestly, right now because I am in a book launch, but I am actively planning my rest and also seeing where I have pockets of the day to fit in walks in nature and any massage or things that make me feel relaxed and taken care of.

When was the last time you felt you failed and how did you overcome it?

I recently gave a talk where I didn’t get the time that I prepped for and I felt I didn’t get a chance to really deliver the value I wanted or connect to the crowd as much as I like to. I felt like I let the event host down even though nothing like this was said. Honestly, I cried that evening to process and just shared with my husband how I felt and then prayed to release the feelings I was holding knowing I did my best that day and that I learned what I will and won’t do next time. This kept coming up over the next few days so I repeated the process and had some close friends hold space for me to say how I felt. They helped m release the negative feelings and stop thinking it was a big deal. This is why I’m so huge on making sure you create a tribe to help you process and make your comeback rates so much faster!

Share a quote that you love and that gives you strength or peace?

We feel weak when we are relying on our strength” – I think this is a course in miracles but I first heard Gabby Bernstein say it. This always reminds me that if I feel like I can’t, it’s because I think I am doing it alone. This helps me lean in and offer it over to my higher power.

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