After helping my daughter overcome one of her panic episodes, I had reached a point where once I relaxed, I felt dizzy and like my knees were buckling — I was so drained. At the same time, I felt an enormous relief that peace was restored and proud that I had remained so calm through it all. Tough tantrums and anxiety at any age involves an all-consuming swirl of escalated emotion before, during, and after. If this is how worked up I felt on the inside, I could only imagine how she was feeling.
As a parent, nothing prepares you for the sensation of helping your child through an anxiety so overwhelming that you are brought to your knees in tears once she moves forward in peace and the storm clears. Only love, compassion, determination, iron will, and a fierce dose of patience can get you through.
That is why I feel the need to write a blog about my top 5 tactics to help an exhausted parent and sensitive child cope with those harder moments in life at any age, together. Learn how to find the strength and strategies to push passed fear and extreme meltdowns moments.
Being a sensitive or emotional person does not mean that your child is weak or shy. In fact, it means that the person feels so deeply that he/she may have a harder time processing the overbearing stimulus. While my daughter may occasionally begin her day with tears over the unknown of a typical school day, she will also be that person who is the first to volunteer and sing her heart out in front of the school and literally scale a mountain wall to the top, while making it all look easy. She is such an incredibly strong and brave young lady with a wildly successful future, even as she learns how to cope with change more easily.
A parent of a sensitive child is all too familiar with that special stare from friends and family members during a meltdown. That stare is critical, confused, sad, disappointed, and judgemental. I see it, and she does also. Her world can spiral in a craze of emotions that only necessitates a strong and loving hand to guide her through. Time will ease the emotion and settle the tornado of worry, it always does.
Through the years, I have learned that happiness is a conscious choice and then a natural response. I have learned that the way you choose to translate moments in life is the way that they exist for you.
“Your perception is your reality.”
This is why I choose positivity. I choose sincerity. I choose gratitude and compassion. I have learned to translate pain into empowerment for myself and anyone I can reach — because I understand and feel, too.
I have experienced a myriad of trial-and-error scenarios to begin understanding which ones work most effectively — but it doesn’t mean it is the only way. Please review these practices as a working tool, not a rule. After all, you know your child best.
Remember, you are human… and you are not alone. Don’t suffer silently. We all know that parenting can be hard, but parenting also means taking care of yourself too. You can’t be successful if you run out of fuel to function or are on the brink of a breakdown yourself. Find important outlets to communicate your own feelings, get rest, and release stress doing something that you love.
Utilize these tools as they see fit in your life and the life of your child. Things will likely improve, but don’t hold back in reaching out to a professional who can offer more specific support, if needed. As long as you parent with love, compassion, and strength, you will all persevere.
P.S. Feel free to add your comments, experiences, tactics, and/or feedback. Let’s continue to empower each other and learn from our own life experiences. Always here for you, xo!
Originally published at superflysupermom.com on September 15, 2016.
Originally published at medium.com