Every month, I send an email update to our investors and advisors. It’s a helpful exercise to step back to reflect on what’s working and what’s not, but, candidly, it’s harder to admit the struggles than the victories. I feel like I have to project an invincible image so that employees, investors, and members of the broader community have confidence in what we’re doing. This partial image creates a barrier of illusion that doesn’t always feel great.
What I’ve found is that most startup CEOs and founders, no matter what stage or momentum, are dealing with some intense problems all of the time, and the good investors and advisors know it. In fact, they’d rather hone in on the challenges, because that’s where they can help the most.
For us, we’re in the process of going to market, defining our business model, and building our team. Each area is not without challenge and consternation. While we’ve raised venture capital financing, there’s not a ton of wiggle room, and I feel a constant internal pressure around performance. The struggle is real.
Even with many supportive people around me, it still feels lonely. Running a startup is hard. The pressure of working long days and maintaining a positive attitude in the face of constant challenges is isolating.
Building Reaction Commerce is one of the most challenging things I’ve ever done in my career, and the data on loneliness is scary. It’s unhealthy, especially for mental and physical health. When mental and physical health are in bad shape, productivity plummets and vulnerability rises. There has been some talk about loneliness and depression in tech, but I wanted to add my voice and share what’s worked and not worked for me.
I’ve tried meetups and, truthfully, they make me feel more alone. The same goes for conferences, cocktail parties, dinner parties, and other events. It’s important to be active in the community and these gatherings serve a purpose, but they often don’t help me to feel less isolated. I can be surrounded in a room full of people or have tons of followers in the social spheres, but I can still feel disconnected and lonely. When I do attend these types of events, what works for me is that I try to be of service and connect with at least one person on a meaningful level.
Here are some of the things that help me to feel less alone:
If you have any tips or suggestions for what helps you with loneliness, I’d love to hear about them in the comments.
Originally published at saralouhicks.com on November 30, 2016.
Originally published at medium.com