Contrary to what you tell yourself, most people don’t expect you to be perfect. Your flawed perceptions lead you to go overboard — far beyond what colleagues and business organizations expect. Sometimes what you consider an adequate effort far outweighs the expectations of others. It’s time to stop the self-abuse. 

Ask yourself what you can do to view your capabilities in more realistic ways and set reachable goals. Your best work isn’t perfection; it’s your best work. That’s good enough and as good as it gets.

When your ego tries to protect you from failure, humiliation, or wrongdoing, it can reek of conceit and arrogance. Perhaps you hide the news of a job rejection at Amazon but broadcast to everyone the position you nabbed at Yahoo. It’s difficult to admit you’re wrong or didn’t get what you wanted, even though you worked so hard for it. 

A bitter pill indeed to swallow your pride. Gulp! But letting it go makes you more successful at work and in your personal life. When you can open your heart and accept the vulnerability of being authentic, you release a burden. Ultimately, it’s better to lose your pride with a close coworker or loved one than to lose them because of your senseless pride. 

You will make mistakes, say things you regret, and hurt others. It’s inevitable. But you don’t have to let pride cover up your wrongdoing. Choosing the path of humility and courage, instead of ego and pride, makes you a stronger leader in the workplace and a more loving family member at home.

Excerpt from #Chill: Turn Off Your Job and Turn On Your Life with permission from the author and publisher.

Follow us here and subscribe here for all the latest news on how you can keep Thriving.

Stay up to date or catch-up on all our podcasts with Arianna Huffington here.

Author(s)

  • Bryan Robinson, Ph.D.

    Journalist, psychotherapist, and Author of 40 books.

    Bryan Robinson, Ph.D.

    Bryan Robinson, Ph.D. is a professor emeritus at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte, psychotherapist in private practice, and award-winning author of two novels and 40 nonfiction books that have been translated into 15 languages. His latest books are CHAINED TO THE DESK IN A HYBRID WORLD: A GUIDE TO WORK-LIFE BALANCE (New York University Press, 2023)#CHILL: TURN OFF YOUR JOB AND TURN ON YOUR LIFE (William Morrow, 2019), DAILY WRITING RESILIENCE: 365 MEDITATIONS & INSPIRATIONS FOR WRITERS (Llewellyn Worldwide, 2018). He is a regular contributor to Forbes.com, Psychology Today, and Thrive Global. He has appeared on 20/20, Good Morning America, The CBS Early Show, ABC's World News Tonight, NPR’s Marketplace, NBC Nightly News and he hosted the PBS documentary "Overdoing It: How To Slow Down And Take Care Of Yourself." website: https://bryanrobinsonphd.com.