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Even the worst fight can be fixed.

How to resolve conflict and improve your relationships.

Nothing can quite ruin your day like a conflict. From the smallest disagreement to the loudest screaming match, the tension you have with the people in your life can have a significant impact on your mood—and even your performance at work. So how do you save a troubled relationship?

Mending broken ties

In a Huffington Post article, life coach Carmen Isáis recommends couples therapy for those struggling with marital issues. She cites the impartiality of a third party professional as a key reason that therapy works. Talking to someone who can remain objective can help you both see your circumstances more clearly and accurately recognize how you’re both contributing to the situation. From there, the therapist can assist you in determining which actions you should take to mend the marriage. Therapy isn’t just for romantic relationships, though. If you’re having problems with a co-worker you should turn to your human resources department for support. Confiding in a friend, family member, or your own personal therapist can also help you put things into perspective and determine a course of action.

Alternatives to therapy

If you’re uncomfortable with involving someone else, the alternative is to speak directly with the person with whom you’re having issues. It sounds daunting, but it’s the only way to truly address the problem and make amends. Here are some tips to follow regardless of whether you’re dealing with a friend, colleague, family member, or significant other.

  • Before you start the conversation, be honest with yourself and take note of what you could have done to stop the situation from getting to this point. Be prepared to assume responsibility for your behavior and apologize sincerely.
  • When you finally do have the conversation, refrain from assigning blame. Instead ask what you need from each other to build a healthier relationship.
  • Fixing a relationship is an ongoing process, so be sure to check in with each other. It doesn’t have to be anything formal; just do what feels natural, whether it means sending a quick text or going out for coffee to reconnect.
  • Be open to the fact that things might stay rocky at first. Human interactions are complex, so there’s no quick fix. Over time, however, your relationship will improve if you’re willing to put in the work.

At LifeSpeak, we believe in the importance of healthy relationships both at home and at work. To learn more, watch our video on conflict management from your LifeSpeak account or click ‘Book a Demo’ for access.

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