I once got a call from a very nice lady, she was distraught, she was in a hole about waist deep and she desperately wanted to get out of the hole. This sounded awful so I went to go see her immediately to see if I could help her get out of this hole. I found her and it was worse than she had described the hole was even deeper, her eyes were barely visible and she was sobbing. “What do I do?” She implored, worried and upset about what would happen when she couldn’t even SEE out of the hole anymore. And I replied “Put the shovel down and stop digging.”
This story didn’t actually happen with a physical hole but it has happened with people feeling really overwhelmed by their lives, by their stuff, by their to-do list and by their negative thoughts.
The very first thing to do is to put the shovel down, to stop digging.
This sounds obvious, like most good advice, but it isn’t because we become blind to our own shovels.
Your shovel might look like…
Did you just have a moment where you realized you had a tight grip on a shovel or two and didn’t even realize it?
Me too. That’s the wonderful thing about being human, we’re always learning lessons and the most important ones keep coming up until we get it right.
Should you go on an addition break while we’re doing our Subtraction Project? Only you know how big the hole is with the “stuff” you’re dealing with but I will tell you that your awareness alone will shift the VOLUME of stuff you bring in and that while your physical energy is being spent removing what doesn’t work you’ll be much more discerning about what you do bring in.
I would encourage you to make the following commitment during our March Subtraction:
Originally published at medium.com