Transitions can be a very stressful time in life. There are a large variety of transitions people can experience. I help clients handle a variety of transitions, some include: career, environment, identity, your or a loved one’s health (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual), relationships, finances, beliefs, addictions, loss or addition of a loved one, and responsibilities are just a few on the list.
Being raised as an Army brat and then becoming an avid career adventurer, transition and change have been a ritual part of my life since I can remember. Most recently I faced one of the biggest transitions of my life all at once. I left my job in Atlanta, moved to NYC with my fiancé, lived with my fiancé for the first time, and had no idea what direction my career would take. I was submerged in a new environment, new responsibilities, new level in relationship, new financial situation (NYC ain’t cheap ya’ll) and an overall new way of life. It was a stressful transition! Not to mention that I knew hardly anyone in my new community.
Now, six months later, I can proudly say that I am thriving and accomplishing so many amazing things I would have never done had I not been ripped out of my comfort zone. That’s the thing about comfort zones, once you’re settled into them, you never want to leave them. Since stepping out of my comfort zone, I’ve become accustomed to the New York way of life, I can ride the metro like a pro, I’ve made amazing new friends and connections, I’ve learned about new cultures, started my own business, and stretched myself beyond my wildest imagination.
When you open up and become vulnerable to new opportunities it stretches you to new ideas, beliefs, knowledge, connections and possibilities. You’ve got to reframe your mindset to open your mind to the wonderful opportunities that change can bring.
“If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.”
If it had not been for the uncertainty and being thrown in a “sink or swim” environment and situation, I probably wouldn’t be pursing my passion of helping people to win the championship of their lives. I’m grateful for the experience because I’ve learned about my resiliency during difficult times and that at the end of the day, I’m going to figure it out and it’s going to be just fine.
If you are going through a transition yourself, here are recommendations for combating the stress that comes along with it:
Remember that during times of stressful transitions it’s okay to experience a rollercoaster of emotions. Somedays you may feel on top of the world ready to accomplish anything and others you may be questioning yourself while eating an entire container of ice cream. That is normal. Just take a deep breath and take it day by day.
The most important thing to remember is that you are a badass.
You are going to make it to the other side of this transition. This transition is going to stretch you in ways you cannot imagine but you will come out so much more equipped and enlightened to handle life. I believe in you and I’m excited for you because I know that this transition means you are a work in progress to becoming a better version of yourself.