Through my own healing journey, I know the damage emotional abuse leaves both in your internal life and your external, physical, and financial life because I’ve been there.
This was a game and I didn’t have the rules. After an unhealthy relationship, I was left a shell of my former self and I’d lost everything; I was broke and I was broken…
I was stuck in a debilitating cycle of questioning and doubting myself-
“If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ I thought it was all my fault.
The very first part of healing was dealing with the invisible bonds the Trauma Bonding, which kept me trapped unable to move on. I eventually realised it really wouldn’t have made any difference if I had said or done anything differently I would still be here, I might have been granted more time but I also might have been even more traumatised.
I believe the emotions we feel are trapped trauma and we experience over and over again until we remove it completely from our system.
And that we need to get to the root cause, and much like a verruca, if a tiny part of the root is left it will lay dormant until it is triggered again.
The problem with a lot of methods is they only scratch the surface of the problem and act more like a bandaid rather than a full solution…
Every step I have taken over the last 20 years has brought me to this point to be able to spot the hallmarks of abuse and transform the grit into gold
Each new level of understanding has expanded my toolbox.
I am so passionate about the work I do with clients, seeing them gain the clarity and the inner healing is magical and to see their faces change physically after just one session inspires me.
And I love having a business that allows me to travel, for travel was something that saved me when I was going through my own healing journey.
When I’m not working on Revive Your Soul, you will probably find me in my garden tending to my vegetables, might find me walking along the canals, writing, or meeting friends for coffee. Or you might spot me at the airport…
Author - Finding Lily & A-Z of Emotional Abuse and Emotional Abuse Specialist