Q: I’m 40 years old and still don’t know my life purpose. I’ve jumped from one job to another but that was mainly due to keeping my finances afloat. But something has always been missing. I feel frustrated that I still haven’t followed my life purpose – whatever that is! Help me
A: Let’s begin by establishing one thing before we proceed. Your Life Purpose will be discovered by you at some point in your life. At any time in your life where you are reflecting, self-discovering or just between the space perhaps. Below will give you some pointers to shed some light.
We’re human. And it is natural to feel emotions of frustration, panic and at times we will feel like the walls are closing in on us. We find it hard sometimes to process our life purpose due to the confusion it all brings to your thinking space.
We become an example of society when we feel like we haven’t fulfilled our life purpose and take in their perception of how they see us sometimes. This has an overall effect of our mental and psychological being. And that is when our emotions run wild.
Anxiety and depression is on the rise amongst us, and until these key aspects of our lives are not ‘given space’, we will continue to see these rates go higher. Mental Health statistics also speak for themselves. Expectation from society of how we should live and what we should be doing. Names, and Titles we give ourselves to feel important. To feel like we have achieved something in life.
Here’s a few ideas to help you:
Stop trying to battle this one out on your own. Don’t be a hero. Because in the end, you become your own villain and you’re fighting your own hero – which eventually may give in. Talk to a friend, family member or someone that is willing to listen i.e. coach, counsellor, therapist.
Do this once or twice a day. Add it to your calendar and commit to it. Meditation or prayer helps you establish your being – connecting with it and this space will allow reflection. We all need that from time to time – and this space gives you the opportunity to find your life purpose.
The past is the past. Stop living in a space that doesn’t benefit you nor can you change it. Only live within the present moment and control what is within your reach. When you feel your inner gremlin wants to go backwards, remind yourself of the date today and come back to the present moment!
Brainstorming is a great way to help you find your life purpose. Coaching offers this method and it has proved to work as long as you commit and are accountable for your life goals.
To summarize, your life purpose will be found one day. You have to vision it in order to bring it into the space and then reflect on this ideal. Brainstorm. And most of all, don’t panic.
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