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Your Emotions Should Be Your Own

A guide to improve your emotional intelligence for a better life

Emotion is what makes us human. Our abilities to express our emotions makes us different from the rest of the animal kingdom. However, our emotions are also responsible for clouding our judgement and making us psychologically vulnerable to the external environment. Our state of emotion often changes based on our exposure to certain stimuli, thereby affecting our judgement and decision making process. So, does that make emotion bad? No, definitely not. Properly controlled and channeled emotions can prove to be quite beneficial for us.

This ability is often represented by the term “emotional intelligence”. An individual with high emotional intelligence has the capacity of identifying and controlling his own emotional state. In our day to day experience, we often face situations that can alter our positive state of emotion to a negative state, which can be sadness, anger, fear, etc. In a negative state of emotion, we are often unable to think logically, thereby reducing our decision making efficiency.

Let us have a closer look at how we are so vulnerable to our emotions. It has been found that our brain is hardwired to perceive danger in the environment. This design was meant to help us in avoiding certain types of danger, especially when primitive humans were dwelling in an environment characterized by the presence of physical danger from wild animals or other hostile communities. Even though we have socially evolved much faster, our brain is still designed to warn us about potential dangers. Therefore, certain stimuli in our present environment triggers fear, panic and sadness, even when there is no physical danger.

As a part of the civil society, it is our responsibility to have complete control over our emotions and behaviors so that is does not affect us and others in our community. This is where emotional intelligence comes into play. It helps us to assess our own state of emotion and allows us to keep it stable. Now the question arises as to how we are supposed to improve our emotional intelligence. Let us have a closer look.

1. Don’t run from it: You need to condition yourself to face uncomfortable situations. We have a defensive mechanism of avoiding uncomfortable conversations, by changing the topic or by simply walking away. You need to stop doing that. You need to let your brain handle uncomfortable situations and eventually it will get better at it.

2. Do not jump to conclusions too fast: Almost all of us have the tendency to judge ourselves based on our emotions. Take your time to assess your state of mind and ask yourself why you are feeling it. Most of the time you will find that your emotional response is triggered as an overreaction to a particular stimuli.

3. Be Logical: It is suggested that you should keep a logical mindset. Every time you find yourself in a negative state of mind, you need think logically about the rationality of your feeling. The moment you become aware of your own feeling, you will be able to effectively control them.

Improving your emotional intelligence can be really helpful for you, especially when you are trying to increase your work efficiency. Whether you work in the IT sector or offer assignment help, you are likely to face situations in your workplace that can trigger some of the negative emotions. Monitoring and controlling them can really help you to have a firm grip on your behavioral aspect and also to refine your judgements and decision making process. Therefore, you must never consider emotions to be a bad influence on your work performance, instead you should work on controlling them to your own benefit.  

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