There is nothing more important to true growth than realising that you are not the voice of the mind — you are the one that hears it.Michael E. Singer
You don’t have to fall for everything your mind tells you. Understanding that you don’t have to be the thoughts in your mind or believe everything it says can be transformative. As Michael Singer says, you are not the voice of your mind, you are the one listening to it.
By listening to your mind, rather than unconsciously following its every instruction and thought, you can gradually teach it to better serve you.
We so often mistake our moods for reality. Our minds can be such a positive force, but also unfortunately negative. For some reason we can see that other people have opinions but our mind is often only full of facts, “you might think I look nice but I know I look awful.”
Once you start listening to your mind, you can begin changing it. By this we mean learning to respond differently to it, which over time changes how it will respond to different events and situations. You start working from the inside out instead of outside in which is ultimately far easier and more within your control.
For example, you may have had a bad experience with a partner, which means that you now find it harder to trust people. So, when you first meet a potential partner, you are cold, a little distant and wary of them. Over the years it becomes a habitual reaction, you’re not even aware you’re doing it, and prospective partners often find it off-putting. When you start to listen and become aware of your mind’s reactions you realise what you are doing and that there is actually no need to be cold or distant. You’ve only just met the person so they’re not in a position to hurt you, so why not be more open-minded, and give yourself a better chance of creating a new relationship?
Do you know some of your common mind’s reactions, for example what makes you angry or frustrated and why? Do you think your mind works in a way that helps you live the life you want to live?
Self Check: Ask yourself — do I like the way my mind thinks?
If you don’t make the time to work on creating the life you want, you’re eventually going to be forced to spend a LOT of time dealing with a life you don’t want.Kevin Ngo
There’s not many of us who can answer all these questions positively. So how do we go about listening to the voice of our mind, understanding it better, and changing the way it responds?
We can do this and change our whole experience of life through awareness.
Excerpted from The Mind Diet Detox: Nourishment for a calmer, happier mind by Frances Roberts and Jo Roberts. Copyright © 2019 by Frances Roberts and Jo Roberts.
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