One of the biggest cultural myths that hurts high value women is this – to be in a loving relationship with a man you must GIVE and HELP and SUPPORT
How you are treated by men is directly related to your own sense of self worth and your belief system about what it is to be woman!
It’s not your fault because we live in and are raised in a culture that equates femininity with caretakers of others, that you are being selfish when you take care of your own needs or speak your truth, and that men are the authority on your worth. That being a helper or selflessly giving to your man is the measure of a good woman and a man should treat you well if you do these things! Cultural myth! This is one of the lies of patriarchy that women have internalized meaning we truly believe it as truth! Toxic men are attracted to women who are giving and will gladly take advantage of kind women and feel entitled to do it!
If you are still reading this then chances are that you are a kind, giving, empathetic woman who has been hurt or is still being hurt by a toxic man.
How does it leave you feeling giving and giving to a taker? And what kind of relationship does this create? If you are like most kind, giving women you feel taken for granted, you give and give and give without any appreciation or gratitude and start to feel used, resentful, anxious and depressed! This effects your self esteem, leaves you feeling drained emotionally, physically, and financially and has dire effects on your ability to meet your goals, find happiness and attract a high value, respectful man!
The truth is that good men are givers! In sacred sexuality women are the ones that receive, and men just want their women to feel good! When you open up to receiving, set higher standards, and learn the skills necessary to create a partnership such as recognizing a toxic entitled man, learning how to say no, and stop over giving at the expense of your well being, and to use your voice to truly express your needs and your truth – once you learn these things – you can truly change your relationship patterns. To take your power back you must let go of the old mindset and habit that leave you drained, lonely and feeling bad about yourself with selfish partners!
Ask yourself – What do I believe about who I should be and what I should be doing in a relationship? What resistance do I have to receiving? When do I say yes to others when I know want to be saying no?
Start telling yourself – I am a high value woman who DESERVES to RECEIVE from a man! Start to FEEL deserving and visualize what your relationships would be like if you were the one receiving and what it would BE like to feel secure, happy and confident.
I worked in social work as a service orientated helper for over a decade. In the meantime, I dated men who were abusive, cheaters, liars, manipulators, and that took no responsibility for their bad behavior. I am not a weak woman! Being in toxic relationships has nothing to do with income level, ethnicity, country you live in, being weak or daddy issues! Kind, giving, compassionate women all over the world find themselves with this disease. In therapy we pick apart all the various theories as to why women find themselves with selfish, controlling, entitled men but all that doesn’t matter if you really want to change! A wise woman once told me being with a toxic man is kind of like getting cancer.
One of the BEST ways to heighten your confidence, own your self worth, and learn how to stop giving and open to receiving a good man is to get help from someone who has been through what you have been through, has learned to change their habits, mindset, and thus relationships with themselves first, and can help you see your blocks and blow past them! This is what I do all day long! I help women reclaim their self worth and learn the skills necessary to receive all the good that high value men have to offer! Stop attracting users and start attracting givers!
***STARTING today – I invite you to create a NEW reality a NEW future – one with you in the drivers seat in your relationships, a future magnetizing giving supportive men where you get to decide if you will commit or give to them, where you know your self worth, demand the BEST treatment in relationships, get exactly what you want and deserve by making a NEW decision***
Samin is a Relationship Coach serving high value women. Join my Free Facebook group.