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Women In Wellness: “Why we must have structure” with Author Kimberly Lou

…Lack of Structure is another factor that plays a part in people not being able to sustain their self-care program. We must have structure. For example, in a pack of wolves, you will notice, that every day those wolves walk up to ten hours a day (exercise). Every wolf has a job in that pack […]

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…Lack of Structure is another factor that plays a part in people not being able to sustain their self-care program. We must have structure. For example, in a pack of wolves, you will notice, that every day those wolves walk up to ten hours a day (exercise). Every wolf has a job in that pack (purpose), and every day those wolves hunt (structure). Even if they are not hungry, why? They need that routine to create a sense of safety. On a side note, have you ever seen a wolf in the wild with anxiety? When they know what they are going to do every day, they don’t have to think about what’s next. When we as humans have to think about what we are continually doing, it wastes precious energy. Hence, I always see my most successful CEO’s always eating the same thing or wearing the same type of clothing every day. It’s because every decision they make, takes energy.


I had the pleasure of interviewing Kimberly Lou. Kimberly is an integrative Life and Corporate Mentor who coaches top CEOs, entrepreneurs, celebrities, and world-class athletes around the world. She helps clients accelerate and thrive through mental focus, emotional fitness and physical training. In addition to Kimberly’s mentoring programs, she is an accomplished author, and a nationally recognized spokesperson for mental health and wellness.


Thank you so much for joining us! Our readers would love to “get to know you” a bit better. Can you share with us the story about how you first got involved in fitness and wellness?

I remember weighing over 200lbs. I tried everything to lose it. I worked out 2 hours a day. I tried every fad diet known to man, and I hired trainers who pushed me to extremes and told me, “No pain, no gain.” I couldn’t keep up and eventually became injured, burned out, and felt hopeless. For over five years, I couldn’t step foot into a gym. I cringed every time I drove past one. To me, living a healthy lifestyle equaled pain and too much work. However, the pain of living with multiple eating disorders took over, and I knew I needed to make a change.

I sat quietly and asked myself. What do I want, and how can I achieve it? For me, it was about being mentally, emotionally, and physically fit from the inside out. I wanted to have a great body, but I also wanted to be happy. Over time, I created a sustainable program for myself to help me reach my ultimate goal. Freedom! I realized I had to slow down to go fast. You see, I had already burned my body out. The last thing I needed was kick your ass program and a trainer shamming me, telling me I was too lazy to do the work. I wasn’t lazy. I was exhausted from life.

On my program, I lost over 75 lbs and was happy for the first time in my life. I never made myself wrong. If I messed up my schedule, I would keep going. When I made slow but steady changes to my plan, I began seeing results; I continued and through trial and error; I found what worked for me. Once I had the answers, I had to share them with as many people who would listen, because I knew to keep what I had, I had to give it away. That is why I became a trainer at first. While training, I began to notice that I became more than a trainer to my clients. I began addressing my clients’ belief systems and help them tell a different story about what they believed they deserved. Through my program, I not only helped them achieve a better body; I began assisting them in achieving whatever goals they wanted. To date, I have trained over 10,000 people with amazing results not just in fitness, but in business, life, relationships, through addictions and so much more.

Can you share the most exciting story that happened to you since you started your career?

Every day is exciting. Honestly, I have seen severe cases of mental illness transform right before my eyes. I’ve seen suicidal clients shift and thrive. I have helped clients lose over 100lbs, being able to eliminate all medications, receive promotions, and start dating again. I have seen clients whose doctors said they were terminal and given four months to live, ten years later, still living, happy, and healthy. All it took was a perspective shift and a willingness to do the simple work. I tell people every day, “I get to do this.” I don’t have too, and that is what’s most exciting to me today.

Can you share with our readers a bit about why you are an authority in the fitness and wellness field? In your opinion, what is your unique contribution to the world of wellness?

I can certainly say I am an authority, not because of over 200 certifications. Not because of all the courses I have taught or the television shows I have appeared on. I am an authority because I have been through what my clients have been through and probably more. If I can achieve Mental, Emotional, and Physical Fitness, so can you. I remember one of my clients who had been through multiple rehabs ask me, “Can someone like me change? Am I broken?” I said to her, “Oh, sweet-heart. You’re not broken; you are at a breaking point, and before every breakdown, is a breakthrough. You have this, and you can do it.” My beautiful mentee is still sober to this day. Not only is she sober, she is thriving.

None of us can achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful to who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

I remember Oprah saying the hire up she became the more of a team she needed. By no means am I comparing my self to Oprah. However, I work with over 200 people a week. Not to mention, I have my online empire, my personal life, my friends, community, and most importantly, my daughter, who comes before all of that. I must have a team of people who can help me in all of these areas of my life. Two people, in particular, have meant the world to me and are my beautiful friends. One is the owner of New Method Wellness, DeAnna Crosby, and the other is Aria Johnson. They are always there for me when I need them. I stay connected with them daily, and we see each other weekly to catchup. If weren’t for friends like them, I don’t think I could have made it this far.

Okay, thank you for all that. Now let’s move to the main focus of our interview. We all know that it’s essential to eat more vegetables, eat less sugar, exercise more, and get better sleep etc. However, while we know it intellectually, it’s often difficult to put it into practice and make it a part of our daily habits. In your opinion what are the 3 main blockages that prevent us from taking the information that we all know, and integrating it into our lives?

I remember a client saying to me, “Kim I have all the resources to get massages and do self-care and yet I don’t. Why?” My response to her was, “If a deer is being chased by a pack of wolves is he going to stop and get a massage? No! What about sit down and have a meal and be able to connect with his deer family, let alone digest that meal, while he is being attacked? Again, No! All the deer can think about is where is the predator, where are my exits, and how much time do I have to get there? Nothing else. Humans are no different, and they are living in a constant state of survival due to their fast-paced lifestyle. Many are afraid to slow down because they are afraid they will not be able to regain momentum again.

Additionally, many suffer from a negative Belief System. A Belief System is a story that we tell ourselves day in and day out. That belief usually had a qualifying event like; someone rejected us, didn’t pick us for the team, there could have been abuse. Whatever incident happened in childhood made us believe two things. I’m not, and the world is. For example, I’m not lovable, I’m not enough, I’m not capable or qualified, and the world is punishing, scary, not safe. Moreover, we carry these beliefs with us without even knowing it. I call these blind spots, and they keep us stuck. We must address and resolve these belief systems and heal them by focusing on what we want, instead of what we don’t.

Lack of Structure is another factor that plays a part in people not being able to sustain their self-care program. We must have structure. For example, in a pack of wolves, you will notice, that every day those wolves walk up to ten hours a day (exercise). Every wolf has a job in that pack (purpose), and every day those wolves hunt (structure). Even if they are not hungry, why? They need that routine to create a sense of safety. On a side note, have you ever seen a wolf in the wild with anxiety? When they know what they are going to do every day, they don’t have to think about what’s next. When we as humans have to think about what we are continually doing, it wastes precious energy. Hence, I always see my most successful CEO’s always eating the same thing or wearing the same type of clothing every day. It’s because every decision they make, takes energy.

Can you please share your “5 Non-Intuitive Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Dramatically Improve One’s Wellbeing”?

I remember telling a friend. I needed to slow down. She said to me, “Kim, you don’t need to slow down, you need to become more. I asked her what does that mean? She Said, “You’re a meditator, go figure it out.” Slightly annoyed, I went home and asked myself, ‘What does become more mean? “To me, it wasn’t about time management; it was about energy management. I developed a daily ritual to help me retrain my mental focus, emotional fitness, and physical training. I call it my golden hour of power, because the first hour and the last hour of the day are the most fertile to retrain old habits and it’s worth its weight in gold.

Creating Your Golden Hour Of Power

Step 1. Read 5 Minutes

Step 2. Journal 5 Minutes

Step 3. Meditate 5 Minutes

Step 4. Move My Body 30 Minutes

Step 5. Eat Nutrient-Dense Foods 10 Minutes

Step 1. Wake up and read something inspirational for five minutes. What that does is sets the tone and the direction for the rest of the day. You are telling your brain, “This is what we will be focusing on today.”

Step 2. Journal about what you read for five minutes. Journaling is like signing a contract. The contract is nill and void until someone signs it. When we journal about what we learned about, it sets in stone what you want to create.

Step 3. Meditate/Visualize for five minutes. Some people say, “Kim, how do you meditate?” I keep it simple. Either I contemplate what I just read and perform deep rhythmic breathing, or I sit still and listen to the sounds around me, i.e., the air conditioner, the dog barking outside, the sound of my breath. When I do this, it taps into my central nervous systems and calms down my mind and body.

Step 4. We must move our bodies daily at least 30 and we must breathe. When we move our bodies it allows our lungs to fill up with air and by breathing deeply it allows us to sustain life. In addition, when we do move our bodies our lymphatic fluid that was toxic, will begin to flow like a river again.

Step 5. Eat Nutrient-Dense Foods. Just like we wouldn’t put sugar, caffeine, or alcohol in our gas tank, we also should not place large quantities of these ingredients in our body. Unfortunately, Americans live off these toxic foods and drinks, causing our bodies to age. Now I’m not saying it’s not okay to have a cookie or a piece of cake. What I am saying is make sure that 80% of the food you eat is nutrient-dense. We should also eat proteins to repair muscles and fats to help with hormones and organs. Additionally, fats are an emulsifier. Which means it draws nutrients into our body to help repair, rebuild, and recover.

Do it every day and watch how your life will transform right before your eyes. If you prefer not to do this in the morning, do it at night.

As an expert, this might be obvious to you, but I think it would be instructive to articulate this for the public. Aside from weight loss, what are 3 benefits of daily exercise? Can you explain?

When you move your body, you breathe deeply. Breathing helps blood become fully oxygenated. Studies have shown that if we do not breathe deeply our bodies go into a hyper-state causing the central nervous system to trigger a hyper-alert state response. This hyperintense state knocks down our immune system, shuts off our muscles, affects our digestive system, and can cause brain fog. Our skin then begins to age quickly due to the stress placed on our bodies. In Short, exercise helps us sustain our vitality and ultimately gives us better overall mental, emotional, and physical health. It’s all connected.

We are very blessed that some of the biggest names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this if we tag them 🙂

There are two people I would love to meet. First Tony Robbins. I have been listening to him since I was 18. I have used many of his techniques in my daily life, and he has been my idle sense them. Michael Jordan, another favorite of mine. Mainly when he played for the Chicago Bulls. His natural talent, as well as his work ethic, have inspired me never to give up.

How can our readers follow you on social media?

Website: https://kimberlylou.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KimberlyLouCoaching?ref=hl

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimloucoach/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimloucoach/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSdV-ne-VP7pOl_-vTlmFew

Thank you for all of these great insights!

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