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Why Your Unique Energy is the Key to Finding True Love

How being authentic opens the door to love, and why "fake it till you make it" will never work.

Do you ever see those couples that seem to be perfectly in – sync?

And, do you ever find yourself wondering what their “secret” is?

How do two people find each each other in this great big world and just fit together like a glove?

The secret is –no secrets!

Finding your soul mate requires a kind of openness that a lot of people shy away from. And, this leaves them with a string of unsatisfying relationships where they never feel truly understood.

To make a real connection, you have to practice vulnerability – and that can be pretty scary.

So, how do you let your unique energy shine to attract the right love for you?

First, never pretend to be anything you aren’t. A lot of women change their personalities on a dime depending in who they’re with. They switch sports teams, change what they like to do for fun, and even dress different.

All in the hopes of creating a bond with their new guy. Only, instead of bringing them closer…all this “fake” interest actually makes it impossible for them to form a true heart connection.

People are amazing energy readers, and even if they can’t put their finger on it, they will feel something “off” about you.

Instead, embrace the things you love openly. If you’re a Raiders fan and your love interest is a Cowboys fan, make it a fun (not mean spirited) rivalry.

Second, let the pieces of you that you aren’t fully in love with show anyway.

We almost always have one or two personality “quirks” that we tell ourselves will be a complete turn off to anyone who sees them. And that couldn’t be farther from the truth. In fact, our “moods” and less than glamorous habits can create an ever deeper bond with our partner.

No, one is perfect! Pretending to be flawless is not only exhausting for you, but it makes potential life partners feel insecure about themselves. Go on and be silly, spunky, moody – you!

Last and most importantly, learn how to express your feelings.

All of them.

Learn how to talk about what makes you happy or unhappy. Learn to say what you want as well as what you don’t want.

Tolerating things from a partner that you don’t like leads to a lot of resentment. A million “little things” grow until you have just one big mass of anger and hurt feelings.

Speaking up when you want something, or when something makes you unhappy, allows you and your partner to co-create a life that you both love.

Putting your needs and desires on the back-burner may feel noble at the moment, but over time you will begin to feel stepped on and taken for granted.

Open and honest communication right from the start is what builds a happy, sustainable relationship.

Once you start practicing authenticity with everyone in your life, you will be amazed at how quickly your relationships start to improve.

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