In life, there are often many peaks and valleys, success and failure, profit and loss, joy and disappointment, pain, suffering, chaos, confusion, and insecurity. To strengthen one’s ego and personal qualities, to develop one’s confidence, individuals are often invulnerable and dependent on external circumstances, people, situations, and events.
There’s one place, internal within you, deep inside you, where everything is fine, where you are independent and free, a place that is your true nature, a place where you’re at “home.”
One of my favorite authors and public speakers, Deepak Chopra, writes about this place.
“This place where one is independent and free, this is a sanctuary, a mere consciousness of comfort that cannot be hindered by the buzz of anything. This place does not keep the memory of any suffering, chaos, confusion, and pain.”
This is the mental space that one finds in meditation and which in my humble opinion, is one of the most purposeful objectives in life one can pursue.
There are many types of meditation, yet everyone can find the best one for him or herself. You don’t need to become or be a Tibetan monk or a Zen Buddhist to meditate. Everyone can find a state of meditation that is most natural to him or her.
You can find meditation in sitting in silence and focusing on your breathing. Buddhism tells that an individual needs to blend in with his or her breathing and not concentrate precisely on what one is feeling. Paying attention to your thoughts, desires, feelings, but not analyzing, evaluating, or determining them.
You don’t have to stop to think about and master your reaction. Letting things go and allowing it to feel freedom can best master your mind. Your thoughts are constantly moving. Your mind is similar to a monkey that jumps from branch to branch, and if you try to tame it, it begins to jump even faster.
In meditation, when you simply “observe” the passing of your thoughts, they begin to subsist, stop, and a “gap” between them begins to develop.
Meditation allows you to stop thinking, although the action of having a completely empty mind is an extremely difficult task.
A modern zen koan says:
“Can you think of anything without thinking about it at all?”
If you were to sit down and think, “I’m not thinking about anything, my mind is empty.” – This is still a thought. You just need to sit down and watch, let everything happen on its own. If you’re experiencing an emotion, let it happen, appreciate it, don’t blame yourself for feeling a certain way; don’t stop this emotion. Observe it and let it disappear on its own.
While you’re sitting, if you’re not in a natural outside setting, imagine that you’re sitting outside and observing the sky, you’re watching the passing birds, small and large; you’re noticing the swirling and quietly passing clouds – white or gray, clumsy or small, they fly around, they come and go. The space you’re within remains calm. Your space cannot be interrupted by anything; you’re at peace.
Relax, don’t think if your posture is straight, or not; release any limitations and any desire to control your environment and yourself. Free yourself from everything and don’t think that there’s a certain way meditation needs to be performed. Mentally leave the limited space that you create for yourself and always trying to define you.
When you are relaxed, you will feel all of your thoughts and feelings. You allow them to rise and settle like the ocean waves. Any thoughts that arise, allow them to distract you without limiting them. Don’t cling to them. Don’t try to keep these thoughts. Be like the ocean, stare at your own waves.
When you observe your reactions, thoughts and feelings begin to appear and they disappear. Everything that happens within you is transient. A process within you triggers your reactions, and you respond mechanically to them.
Your consciousness is burdened by external influences, your preliminary expectations and ideas, your attitudes towards what happens to you. Yet, in meditation, you go beyond that consciousness and reach your true being where you’re independent of the outside world.
Looking at things from this state of mind you understand that you can react to things in a new way, and that everything that happens is a game, an illusion, and a temporary role.
In meditation, you go out of this role and reach the Spirit within your own self. The Spirit within you can never be shaken by any external event.
Your Spirit is free from all the needs of the ego for approval, control, evaluation, and determination. The Spirit within you is always calm, there’s excitement on the surface of the sea, but deep at the bottom, your Spirit is calm, and no storm can affect the rest.
In meditation, you feel the world, as it should be. You don’t need to fight it; you appreciate it and accept it.
You do not need to control the world because insecurity is part of the evolution of change. You see the world as it is, without placing any labels, without interpreting and analyzing things, looking at it with clear eye without distorting the view through the prism of your heavy ego.
The present is what it should be. It reflects the overriding laws of Nature that have caused precisely through thought and reaction. The moment is as it is because the Universe is as it is.
The place you will reach during meditation is a place where you can find peace, where you can reach Wisdom, Power, Love, and Freedom, the joy that is within you. During meditation, you reach insights, solutions, inspirational ideas, peace and balance. Because you’re free from everything and you’re at “home.”
When you’re looking for the Power to save you, when you seek Wisdom, when you are trying to figure out how to act and look for Freedom, tranquility, comfort, security, balance, happiness, remember that you cannot find them anywhere else except within your own self.
Meditation draws you closer to your essence, to what you’re looking for.
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About The Author
Dr. Mila is an internationally known Change Catalyst. She teaches individuals and organizations about awareness, connection, and the need for change – personally, socially, and professionally.