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“Why pain can give us the grandest level of motivation.” with Violette De Ayala and Marina Kostina

Pain is what makes us up-level in life and seek to attain the next step. Pain can give us the grandest level of motivation. Examples in my own life; living with a poverty mindset and not able to pay bills brought me pain, which led me to make changes and now I teach others to […]


Pain is what makes us up-level in life and seek to attain the next step. Pain can give us the grandest level of motivation. Examples in my own life; living with a poverty mindset and not able to pay bills brought me pain, which led me to make changes and now I teach others to do the same. Launching a business or two with a tremendous amount of failures made my pain become a part of my shift to not make the mistakes again. Pain and discomfort can serve to bring out our best selves.


I had the pleasure of interviewing Violette De Ayala. Violette is the Founder of FemCity an online global network featuring business and lifestyle trends with over 70 local communities designed exclusively for women. Violette is also a business coach, motivational speaker, small business consultant, writer and mother of three. As a serial entrepreneur with over 20 years of experience, Violette is passionate about supporting women entrepreneurs through business growth, big vision strategies and positivity along the way.


Thank you so much for doing this with us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?

I launched my first business when I was 22 years old. I was a personal trainer and knew I could have more balance as a new mom and more money in my pocket if I went on my own. I had never taken a business class and made so many mistakes. As the years went on, I launched more and more businesses and always wished I had someone to help me. As I got more and more seasoned in building businesses, I wanted to help others create and build business too. I launched FemCity in Miami in 2009 and now we are launching communities around the world.

What does it mean for you to live “on purpose”? Can you explain? How can one achieve that?

Purpose to me means that super hero talent you were born with and its power in helping others. When you align yourself in your purpose and add integrity with consistent perseverance, you can achieve any goal. Some struggle to find their blend of talent and purpose. Clarity at the start of launching a business and it’s connectivity to how it benefits others always leads to purpose. 
 
Do you have an example or story in your own life of how your pain helped to guide you to finding your life’s purpose?

This is a common sequence in my journey to where I am now. Pain is what makes us up-level in life and seek to attain the next step. Pain can give us the grandest level of motivation. Examples in my own life; living with a poverty mindset and not able to pay bills brought me pain, which led me to make changes and now I teach others to do the same. Launching a business or two with a tremendous amount of failures made my pain become a part of my shift to not make the mistakes again. Pain and discomfort can serve to bring out our best selves. 
 
The United States is currently rated at #18 in the World Happiness Report. Can you share a few reasons why you think the ranking is so low?

Society is consistently giving us the quick and easy false solutions to happiness. Take this pill, buy this car, post this photo. Happiness is from within and it comes when we are at peace with solitude. We don’t practice enough with peaceful moments, or in things that are not physical. When we spend time in nature, we always feel better. It’s because it helps to connect us to ourselves. And that is a very magical thing. 
 
How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?

My purpose in life is to help others. As I learn, I teach others. As I grow, I help others grow too. When we serve and look outward from our ego, and seek to serve those around us, well that is my definition of success. Ya got to pay it forward.

What are your 6 strategies to help you face your day with exuberance, “Joie De Vivre” and a “ravenous thirst for life”?

Can you please give a story or example for each? Gratitude, joy, service, passion, spirituality, and growth. Each morning starts with gratitude reminders, walking the dog brings me joy especially if with my husband, service is through all the work that I do, passion is my connection to my purpose and talent, spirituality is the reminder that there is more to my life then the physical realm, and growth… growth reminds me to step into the fear. It reminds me to always push to see how much more I can give and serve. 
 
Do you have any favorite books, podcasts, or resources that most inspired you to live with a thirst for life?

Marianne Williamson changed my life. Oprah Winfrey of course is another inspiration. I look to learn something for people I meet every day as well. We can all learn from one another even when its not seemlingly so. 
 
Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote” that relates to having a Joie De Vivre?

Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life? // I saw often “upward and onward”. I use this all the time. If someone sends you an angry email, keep your chin high and move on. If you make a big mistake, learn from it and keep on going. It’s that reminder to keep on going and keep looking forward. There is no time to take long pauses when it comes to living your best life. You have to keep moving. 
 
Are you working on any exciting new projects now? How do you think that will help people?

I am teaching more classes for our community. I have a book coming out this year as well that will be about the 12 most life shifting moments in my life with some rawness and humor. I go where the community asks me to go. They wanted me to write a book, I am writing the book. I just listen and put it into action. 
 
You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

Keep life simple and approach all things from the most profound point of love. How can we show more love and gratitude to those around us. If you look at every single person as someone with the highest level of value… everyone has a talent and worth, I think the world would be a better place. It’s all about the love.

How can our readers reach out to you?

www.femcity.comand

www.violettedeayala.com.

Follow Violette de Ayala // @violettedeayala

Thank you so much for joining us!

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