Why Overcoming Self-Pity Will Make You a Better Human

In order to be a warrior you must have first fought a battle.

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Sometimes I just like to indulge myself in self-pity.

Like, I will have a complete woe is me “moment” for an entire DAY.

And, I know I am doing it, because I want that pity party. I want to be the victim.

I will revisit memories, situations, and I even have this ability to laser focus on the things in my life that I can NOT change just to make the feeling stronger.

While I want the darkness to go away, at the same time, I want it to come on stronger.

But, self-pity is self-destructive, so as much as I want to indulge, I must move on.

That’s when I know I need to do three things:

1. Step away.

I need to take a break from obligations and responsibilities. Turn off my phone for a day, or at least a few hours, be present with my family, and refill my cup.

2. Remember where I started.

Where was I one year ago? Five years ago? Ten years ago? As much as I’d love to be young and “free” again, older and wiser is actually way freer.

I’ve come a LONG way. And, if I can make the same progress that I’ve made in this past year every year, I will be Queen of the damn universe within the decade.

Also, when you are thinking of how much you’ve done, remember what you didn’t do. Maybe you didn’t stop working out, didn’t give up on your marriage, or you didn’t slip back into your old, bad habits, etc.

3. Remember WHY I am moving forward.

Why did I decide to make a change in my life in the first place? I’ve declared that this is my time. For me, my family, my kids, and the legacy that I will leave.

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So, I put on my fuck-it heels, I slipped on my grandmother’s heart shaped locket, and I conquer the day.

Remember, in order to be a warrior, you must have first fought a battle. 

So, you can have your 5-minutes of pity, but then you need to leave that party. Because we need you.

What battle have you overcome? Tell me in the comments below.

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