In the first week of the UK lockdown, I did some research on how people were handling the massive changes they had been through. The responses that came back, even at that early stage, were heart-breaking:
“I’m just about coping.”
“I’m putting on a brave face.”
“I’m pretending I’m fine, but inside I’m really wobbling.”
Now, nearly four weeks later, people are telling me that they feel ‘scared’ about how they will juggle work with having their kids ‘at school’ at home. They feel the pressure of deadlines they know they can’t meet. They’re exhausted from endless hours of video calls. They are stressed about not being able to go out. They’re worried about how to fit in queuing for food with juggling everything else.
And they’re all unanimous that this is the right thing to do. But it’s taking a toll on their mental, emotional and physical health, already.
We’re all so busy ‘coping’ that we’re focusing on ‘surviving’ and ‘thriving’ has gone out of the window.
But that means we’re setting ourselves up for problems after all of this, with the stress, worry and anxiety that people are ‘pushing on through’ right now lining us up for burnout – and worse.
And what happens with the 52% of women and 49% of men who were already struggling with Imposter Syndrome (the fear of being found out as a fraud or not good enough), before all of this started?
Here’s how Imposter Syndrome is making the lockdown even more challenging.
People who struggle with Imposter Syndrome are really good at hiding it. They can appear outwardly confident and successful, but their secret 3am self-talk has them drowning in worrying about being ‘found out’ as not belonging in the role they’re in.
This means that many people who struggle with Imposter Syndrome are already living with chronic stress, as those fear-based thoughts trigger the body’s ‘fight-flight-freeze’ response, to help them to stay safe from the imagined threat of someone else realising they don’t know as much as they ‘should’.
When we live with chronic stress, we become ‘wired’ to be more easily triggered by simple things like the tone in someone’s email or the phrasing used in a conference call. This kind of thing can trigger a bout of Imposter Syndrome with a throwaway comment.
With everyone else in the world also now being super-stressed, this is affecting communication. People are becoming less patient and tolerant than they were, before. They are more likely to be triggering each other.
And the coping mechanisms for someone with Imposter Syndrome have disappeared. They can’t just pop to a colleague’s desk any more for a reassuring chat. They’ can’t have lunch with someone who could boost their self-belief. They have lost the routine and daily rhythm that helps us to feel safe.
Lockdown Has Created The Conditions For A Perfect Storm For Imposter Syndrome
People cope with Imposter Syndrome (which is totally fixable) by engineering their environment and their job so that they feel safe. One of the biggest triggers for ‘dormant’ Imposter Syndrome to rear its ugly head is major change, such as a promotion or a change of boss.
The massive changes in the past month mean that ‘safety blanket’ has been removed for many people, so they are feeling more scared and vulnerable. This is making their Imposter Syndrome symptoms worse.
Those who are struggling with the secret fear of feeling like they’re not good enough and that they only got to where they are through ‘luck’ or ‘fluke’ are pushing themselves harder, beating themselves up more, and feeling even less confident than ever before, whilst having to juggle more than they ever imagined they would have to. And they’re doing their utmost to hide it. It will be affecting their performance, their productivity, their working relationships and their mental and emotional health.
What Can You Do As A Leader, To Support Your Teams?
It’s important to make sure you’re still getting the one-to-one time with your team members – and to have time where you can just chat, not just about work. It’s not about turning into a therapist. But it is about finding a way to replace those impromptu ‘do you have a minute?‘ chats that naturally happen in a face-to-face working environment, so you can spot if someone needs support.
We also need to cut people slack. Companies need to stop pretending this is ‘business as usual, but from home’.
I’ve supported people in the past few weeks who have been sobbing, because they have no idea how they will deliver on their work deadline, whilst also home-teaching their children, cooking meals for everyone, and putting food on the table. Something needs to give. If you can, take non-essential projects off the table.
And it’s important to offer proactive training and support to your team members, to help them to learn how to become naturally resilient – to be able to healthily bounce back when times are tough, without lining themselves up for future problems.
I offer a 90-minute online workshop on natural resilience, which recent attendees have described as ‘life-changing’ and ‘I wish I had had this years ago’.
It teaches you how to press ‘pause’ on the self-talk that triggers most of the stress we experience in life, how to gently retrain your inner dialogue to become more supportive, and how to use the ‘resilience antidote’ to feel calmer, more confident, and happier, no matter what is going on around you – without pretending.
Article originally published at www.ClareJosa.com, with additional detail on the four key behavioural warning signs for Imposter Syndrome.