Why it’s okay to fail in your first attempt

A counter-intuitive approach to regain your confidence back

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We live a fast moving world. It has become a norm of the society to do everything as quickly as possible: graduate, get a job, get married and live a well-established life.

While, surely, many people among us try to replicate this approach in their lives and more or less succeed. But, there on the other side, thousands who fail to achieve there lifelong dreams.

It is a well-known fact that all of us aren’t equal, we are different and unique in many ways and that is what makes us special. Therefore, it is not fair to expect all of us to do equally well at the same point of time. Many do not grasp concepts easily, others forget things very quickly.

It is okay to not be in the same herd as everyone else, people should know how to learn from their mistakes in their first attempt and use that gained experience to their advantage in their next try.

Take for example the prestigious Joint Entrance Examination (JEE) in India, an examination for getting admission in the best government engineering colleges in India. According to The Times of India, around 10.43 lakh (1.043 million) students appeared for the examination. But, only around 2.3 lakh (0.23 million) students managed to clear the cut-off. Many students after seeing their dismal performance commit suicide or go into depression. This has become a serious problem in India as many coaching institutes have been heavily criticized for putting their students under tremendous pressure.

While times are certainly changing with a change in the examination to make it more student-friendly. The broader picture is that many give-up after their first try and lose all hopes of making it big.

We all realize that it feels really low to not get what we wanted. But that low feeling cannot stop us from going for another shot at it.

While this is not restricted to just academics, it is equally applicable to professionals too. People quit after failing to match the deadline or after receiving a low performance grade in their profile.

It is hard to give-up on what you always wanted, but is even harder to get up, regain your focus back and go for it again even after failing to clear the hurdle the first time.

While it is okay to fail and learn from your mistakes and never commit them in the future, it is certainly not to commit them back in the future and never learn anything.

We can always gain experience from that first attempt and become a source of inspiration for others who may be at the same point of life as we were once.

Our peers and parents too can play a big role in supporting us mentally and emotionally and can help us regain our confidence back.

Some small deep talks, hugs and a smile can work wonders for people, help them get back, regain their focus and start afresh.

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