Why is it essential to grieve the loss of your marriage?

Grieving is essential to the healing process.

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Romantic relationships begin on a high note of excitement and hopes for the future. 

When your relationship fails, you experience profound disappointment and sadness (even when the relationship was no longer good).

Whatever the reason for the split—and whether you wanted it or not—the breakup of a relationship can turn your whole world upside down and trigger all sorts of painful and unsettling emotions.

It represents the loss, not just of the partnership, but also of the dreams and commitments you shared. 

It is essential to mourn all these losses and to express your pain.

Unfortunately, many women try to repress their deep sadness and fears inside. 

They hold their feelings, crumbling on the inside and showing their best self on the outside… in order to protect their children or parents.

Until their mind and body finally crack… and they end up with a deep depression or a serious illness. 

It happened to a woman I met a few weeks ago – she attended a retreat I organised in the Sierra de Madrid, in Spain.

She told me that she felt completely lost when she got divorced a few years ago. But she did not allow herself to really grieve the loss of her marriage. She tried to move on as soon as possible in order to protect her daughter from the intensity of her emotions.

But two years later, she felt even more depressed than just after her divorce.

Grieving is essential to the healing process. The pain of grief is precisely what helps you let go of the old relationship and move on. And no matter how strong your grief, remember it won’t last forever.

Allow yourself some space to express your grief and feelings instead of putting them aside.

If you need some more guidance, I encourage you to read the free guide “7 essential keys to survive a divorce without falling apart”. 

It will help you during your healing journey.

Please, click here to download your FREE guide.

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