“Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.” ― John Lennon
Things always have a way of working out because your problems are temporary.
We assess life from a narrow perspective which blinds us to the truth.
Knowing things work out in the end does not prevent untoward events from occurring. However, we appreciate they are minor elements in a larger scheme working behind-the-scenes.
For example, during a live theatre production, an actor forgets their line and you rationalise the entire play will be dreadful. Though, an hour into the production, the play proceeds effortlessly and you realise it was a minor gaffe in what is a delightful performance.
Suspend judging situations and trust things are working out, despite your opposition to them.
It’s unreasonable to expect something is not working out in your favour, when pieces of the puzzle are still forming.
Ask yourself, “What could be going on behind the scenes that I’m unaware of?”
We must take a long-term view of life, if we wish to find happiness and contentment in our everyday circumstances.
If you set out on a road trip and encounter rough terrain early in the journey, you might conceive the entire trip will be challenging. However, once the destination is reached, you appreciate the journey in its entirety replete with the highs and lows.
Don’t judge your life based on your current circumstances since this is one facet of it.
“We worry because we do not trust ourselves to handle what happens to us. We worry because we do not trust that the way the chips fall will work out for the best. We worry because we have not yet said yes,” states psychotherapist David Richo.
Whilst you shouldn’t ignore short-term setbacks, explore the key lessons they represent.
A delay is not a denial.
Everything that follows is perfectly orchestrated and there’s meaning contained in each event.
We may realise the lesson further down the road while other times we don’t understand why the experience took place.
Instead of dwelling on unfortunate conditions, see them as obstacles that provide inner wisdom and personal growth.
Life bestows you unforeseen circumstances when you least expect it. From the unexpected arises your greatest gifts if you will suspend judgement.
“You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” — A.A. Milne
Author James Hollis writes in What Matters Most: Living a More Considered Life, “If we are free, as free as we want to think we are, then our lives should rather easily take care of themselves. We would make appropriate, proactive choices, and life would work out pretty much as we consciously plan.”
When things don’t eventuate as you expect, focus on what’s important to you instead of becoming embroiled in circumstances that mean little in the end.
A person on their death bed will tell you their three regrets are: having worked too much, not having loved enough and not having the courage to express their feelings.
There’s a purpose to your life and your task is to unearth it. When you do, it will be as though you are reborn.
Author and inventor Buckminster Fuller once said that you “Never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”
I invite to trust in the process of life because what needs to happen will do so, nevertheless. Everything works out in the end since there’s a natural order to life, regardless of your fears and doubts.
The most you can do is to embrace your current experience. Acceptance means to acknowledge life happens through you, not to you. Don’t be a victim since this reinforces your suffering.
You are powerful beyond your beliefs about yourself. I know, I know it may not seem this way. This type of thinking results from perceiving your problems through a victim lens instead of an empowerment lens.
If you lose your wallet, you accept it and retrace the steps to find it. Similarly, to accept your current conditions means to yield to your challenges and allow life to lead you to solutions.
This simple act reaffirms your intent to lean into your conditions instead of retreat from them.
How do you know things always work out in the end?
Look to your past when you encountered similar conditions and got through them.
My greatest breakthroughs emerged when I was ready to give up. Surrender is the greatest step forward you can take and a declaration to collaborate with a greater intelligence that knows precisely how things will unfold.
The message from author Bernard Beitman who writes in Connecting with Coincidence is simple, “Believing in the usefulness of coincidences means acting as if the section of reality you inhabit is a you-friendly place. Call it positive paranoia, or pronoia, meaning that things will work out in your favour, that “luck” is on your side.”
Don’t be invested in your difficulties. If you focus on what’s not working, it becomes your main point of attraction.
If you’ve ever been to a wildlife sanctuary or open range zoo, you’ll see animals stand perfectly still as they weather torrential rain during a storm.
Yet, the moment the rain has passed, they shake the water off their coat and continue on.
Make this your undertaking during unpleasant circumstances. Fully experience what is happening and once it has passed, as it no doubt will, continue on your journey.
I remind you of the Japanese proverb, “Fall down seven times, stand up eight.”
With this engraved on your mind, approach your next challenge by realising that difficult moments unearth your true character.
You learn to respond to life with vigilance and courage instead of cowering in resignation that you have been hard done by.
Originally published at medium.com