Quite a while, we can notice ‘Emotional Intelligence’ a term which is being coined today by many people and soon which could be included as a subject or a course between many medical schools/universities, and even not to my surprise could be taught at B-schools also. Well, emotional intelligence is that field or best be said as a vital fact to practice and to prioritize it to be an important aspect/part of life because having a better EQ level not only helps you with coping to your personal life but also helps in understanding things and making better connections in your professional line.
EMOTIONS AND EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
So let’s look at the real stuff, ‘Emotional Intelligence’ is said to be the ability to cope with emotions of oneself as well as understanding emotions of other people, to better empathize with them and more of the above, you can better control your emotions under any circumstance or situation. In today’s time, the growing complexities between personal and as well as professional whether taken in terms of lives, work, relationships sometimes we are or we had been misled by the emotional status of us or others, reasons we often feel lost or feel empty despite everything going well. Maybe due to situational circumstance, we aren’t able to understand others as well. There isn’t a mistake of anybody, but there can be a lack of emotional skills or intelligence which could bring you down leading to disruptive moods and lack of decision-making skills.
Emotions are what that makes us sensible human and it is characterized by what and how we feel and behave in a certain way. In today’s life, where things are undergoing through major changes and so instantly that could make us confused about how to absorb every knowledge and required changes into our lives that would shape our behaviors and lives for best. These rapid changes could even make our thought process run faster in order to match the pace with the great achievers/successful personalities over the world.
But here we need to hold on for a minute, some of u would think in order to become successful at every work, why emotions are needed here? It is one of the issues that will be holding us back in this race of life right? Intelligence, Smartness, Formation of Realistic Goals, Clarity of Vision, Focus, and Planning is the stuff needed to get through so what Emotional Quotient (E.Q.) has to do with it?
Along with planning goals, vision, and smartness, it’s true that you can achieve success but your emotional quotient is the foundation of all these things. ‘Emotions’ is that essential key that could make us or lack of awareness about this could even break us.
As we all are responsible and want to be committed to our personal or professional life, so it’s even our responsibility to be enough to our emotions and having a better emotional quotient could be a game changer in your life.
WHAT’S THE REASON BEHIND PROLONGED MOOD PERIODS?
Today’s research shows that every 7 out of 10 children specifically teenagers or early adults suffer from depressive moods and anxiety due to many reasons, which leads to their condition of isolation and not only from the people but literally isolating the space in their brains making them conscious about their self-image and some even trick their reoccurring emotion if it’s negative and putting all the positive on their plate. Any failure or rejection could even hit hard to the people having a lack of emotional skills. If within time, we aren’t able to manage our emotions well or aren’t self-aware of our emotional health could even give rise to our mood swings which could even last till a long time period, and we as human behavior demands can’t let anybody to question our emotions and related well being and we are more concerned that anybody could consider us as a “mentally weak person”. Naturally, we don’t ever want that to happen. Not able to handle our emotions with time, later it could sabotage our mental health at various moments affecting it negatively.
WHEN MOODS AND EMOTIONS ARE LIKE THE ‘HEART-BEATS’ ON A VENTILATOR/ECG MACHINE!
We can all have mood swings at very different moments, and it’s absolutely normal. As many health experts and psychologists suggest that negative emotions comprising of anger, frustration, fear, should be confronted just like our positive emotions to maintain that balance for emotional health. Physical, as well as internal mechanism, provides good reasons for mood swings and related emotions like heartbeats or unstable lines on ECG machine. Just imagine the more variation occurs as our emotional status, the more unlikely behaviors we do a certain way.
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE AND EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE
Where emotional intelligence means managing self-emotions and also understanding and taking into account emotions of others, on the other hand, emotional resilience is about adapting as well as managing those emotions creating stress or discontentment and are capable enough to cope with emotional disturbances or disbalance going in the mind. Emotional Resilience can be developed by anyone wanting to manage their emotions and have to practice emotional hygiene on a regular basis.
A broad understanding of emotional intelligence gets to the way through:
- Self-Awareness:
It is the basic action which is taken during the phase of emotion management, that one in order to become emotionally strong should be aware of the emotion which he/she is going through the moment.
- Self-Regulating:
Once you become aware or conscious of the emotion generated inside you, to make that going into your behavior for good, you have to understand and manage that emotion so that it won’t over-ride you.
- To Empathize is a needful skill:
When you’ll start working on how you feel, what you feel about your emotions in another way, it would help your thoughts and behavior in a better way by interacting with others.
- Establishing deep connections:
When you are controlling your emotions well you have your number of chances increased in understanding the emotional side and feelings of others as well, you are capable of taking appropriate action.
Being emotionally stable and your resilience to take action or to control uncomforting emotion using your behavior is interconnected which indirectly ignites your cognitive and intellectual capabilities which helps you to form a response for the emotion.
WHAT IS THE MAJOR DISADVANTAGE OF NOT HAVING EMOTIONAL SKILLS?
One thing that I would like to refer here is that we are knowing that we are responsible for the action and behaviors we do. You know there’s something which comes from having lack of emotional skills, when we are totally unaware or intentionally try to ignore our true emotion regarding something or someone which indirectly going to affect the decisions we’ll be making is our deliberate aura of “SELF-DECEPTION”, it is that process which we are going to get through unconsciously. But believe me, we still do it in present time to tell our self the things which we want and others to get knowledge of it, to get that sense of appreciation. And not dealing with the emotion of the moment could lead to this situation where we are deceiving ourselves to feel good and better.
PRACTICING EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE COULD MAKE YOUR EMOTIONAL STATUS BETTER!
To have emotional skills and adaptive behavior to make this work it is not going to be a one day play, in order to better your communication, behavior and all of the above having that awareness of the emotion, you have to build strong emotional resilience which comes from practicing emotional hygiene and slowly try to make favorable responses through your behavior.
- ‘FAILURE’ or ‘REJECTION’ doesn’t mean an end to your life, if undergone this, you have to change your perception towards it, have optimism by bringing thought to your mind that something or someone much better is waiting for you.
- Feeling empty, disheartened, pathetic, all these uncomforting emotions surrounds you when you are alone. At this time, for a moment, get to notice your feelings and divert your attention by taking action to get rid of loneliness.
- It is so true that we can’t stop negative thoughts that come to our head but not letting these thoughts sabotage our mental being is our responsibility, it is one of the parts of maintaining emotional hygiene.
- I am sure there could be people and many reasons, the things which could shatter your confidence and esteem. So it’s totally up to you, how you could increase your Self-Esteem and not letting others irrelevant thoughts to intrude, start with SELF-ACCEPTANCE.
WHY THE CONCEPT OF “SELF” WILL RULE?
In the coming years, no doubt relationships and technology is going to take a big turn, and having intelligent minds with no deep connections and communication could make you even vulnerable in this dynamic world which gives rise to “Self”, though in today’s time taking steady steps it’s making space like self-help, self-practice, self-acceptance, self-centered, self-motivation and even self-worth.
The positive “self” is good in outcomes and perceptions, but ‘Self-centered’ and ‘Self-Obsession’ has arisen due to lack of feeling of acceptance amongst others and no communication between one another due to low E.Q.
THE BOTTOM LINE
Though the concept of self is acceptable and works when the purpose is good, otherwise it could give rise to pessimism.
The only way to make a stand in terms of your mental health and formation of meaning relationships is practicing emotional hygiene taking above steps and along keeping a leap of faith. Try to be aware of your moods and emotions taking your responsibility of well being.
Let us start as soon as possible and be the leader of our life and most importantly our emotional health.
Originally published at www.artizone.in