Why Cannot You Break It Off If It Hurts You?

Many people choose to continue a relationship even when they are not happy with the way it is. Here’s why?

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Happy relationships are one of the best privileges one can ever get in life. However, not all relations make us happy after a certain duration. After a few dates and candlelight dinner, the beauty of the relationship starts withering, in many cases.

Whatever be the possible source of an unhappy relationship, many partners continue to stick to it. Many theories have been proposed over time to describe such behavior.

Some suggest that the fear of being alone can keep you from breaking it off while some suggest that your partner’s efforts into a relationship keep you sticking to it.

Interestingly, a new study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that altruism is the key to driving people to a relationship no matter whether they are happy with it or not.

The basic feeling that keeps happy (or unhappy) relationships from crumbling is your internal voice that says you should never hurt your partner, say the researchers.

Is Giving a Second Chance a Good Idea?

Undoubtedly, giving your relationship a second is a great idea. You can expect your relationship with the partner to improve in the second phase.

However, this may not always hold true. For example, it can give the partner an excuse to repeat the behavior that caused the turmoil or even prolong the agony.

In addition, even if your partner is committed and loving, staying in a toxic relationship can wreak havoc on your future.

Love has always been a sort of mystery even for the most romantic couple, I guess! Therefore, it’s better to give your love a second chance provided it will not hurt your self-esteem or question your existence.

“If co-existence does not occur, there’s no point in accepting the existence of your partner”

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