I have a confession. In the midst of a terrible political climate, major change at the business I own, and familial loss, my life got better. I changed, in many areas of my life (work, physical, financial) for the better. This happened because I decided to change. With 40 on the horizon, I saw some things I wanted to change and I did it. I am so humbled and grateful that hard work can change things.
The most significant change that I made was (is!) changing my “shoulds” to “musts.”
Here is what typically happens:
We make a list of all the “shoulds”… (and often times this is amplified by our holiday experience of stress, family and over indulgence.)
And then life starts happening. We go back into the routine of work and school and we go back to our belief systems. The “shoulds” start to wane and we begin to repeat patterns. And we get frustrated, we beat ourselves up, and we repeat negative behavior.
So let’s take a look at that sentence. “I should…”
Change it. Switch the “should” with a “must.”
Consider how powerful it is when we change “I should eat healthier” to “I must eat healthier.”
or… “I should start saving money.” To “I must start saving money.”
Changing the strength of your language also changes something else, your standards. When you raise your standards, you will be able to make permanent change in your life. Raising your standards will change your should to a must.
YOUR LIFE IS A DIRECT REFLECTION OF THE STANDARDS YOU HOLD FOR YOURSELF AND OTHERS.
The standards you hold are a direct reflection of your life. The way you manage everything – health, finances, your environment, your appearance, your values. How you communicate yourself to the world is a communication of the standards you hold.
How do you start doing this? Get a paper and pen and ask yourself some questions:
(doing this now will let change start to happen NOW)
Here’s to having the most amazing life you deserve. You MUST do it!