One of the first things that my counselor said to me when I initially (and somewhat reluctantly) walked in his office a couple of years ago was, “The mind is a horrible master and a wonderful servant.”
“The mind is a wonderful servant, but a terrible master.” ~Robin Sharma
He mainly said this because I came in literally looking like a deer in headlights.
The short story is that once I had kids I stopped taking time for myself. I was all business all the time, in super “productive” mode, being a professional people-pleaser, and I was doing everything for everyone else but nothing for myself.
And, that led me to have a breakdown. Like a legit, not getting dressed, not getting out of bed, complete with crazy eyes, breakdown.
Because I was trying to be supermom. But, that concept is actually unattainable.
So, at the advice of a good friend, I went to see a counselor. And, the first thing we talked about was how stressed, anxious, and overwhelmed I was all. the. time.
My counselor explained how we actually have to train our minds, in the way that you would train a wild horse. Our minds are oftentimes just simply trying to protect us, but they actually aren’t that “smart.”
So, when your mind starts galloping like mad off the trail and bucking and kicking and neighing and expelling all types of energy but never actually going anywhere, you have to train it to come back on the path and sllloooowww down.
“Huh? This guy is NUTS,” I thought.
But actually, he was right. And, training your mind is really quite simple. The answer is meditation.
Meditation can literally be as simple as connecting with your breath for a few minutes. Or, focusing on a candle. Sometimes I like to use a guided meditation app.
Practicing meditation allows you to pull from that training like a kind of muscle memory and use those techniques when you feel yourself being led “off the trail.”
So now, when I feel that wild horse bucking, and leaping, and jumping, I can pull from my meditation techniques, thank my brain for trying to protect me and rein the horse back in.
Then, instead of riding that horse off into Neverland, I pull on the reins and lead that horse back on track.
So, this is me. Giving you permission to not only use these techniques to reduce the overwhelm in your life, but also giving you permission to just be YOU.
Every messy, confusing, flawed, and fabulous piece.